Ultimately, it is about what one seeks in life to be contended.
It is NOT that you have NO ambition or passion, You did have, and SO TOO EVERY EARTHBORN Human on Earth.
As you had achieved what you sought for as you claimed - stable career, keeping fit, retirement plans, etc, SUCH are ambitions that drives you, to face another day courageously, as such are NOT easily achieved. It takes much much discipline, clarity of mind and much mental strengths to keep on such a path...
Ambitious simply means a strong desire and determination to succeed, in the critical analysis of what you want out of life and you did it and found contentment.
THE PROBLEM you have is that you had not been able to find a female partner in life that SHARES the same thoughts as you. It is only normal as NO TWO HUMAN THINKS ALIKE.
On the sub-level of resolving this problem, you will have to identify WHAT AND WHO you want to share your journey of life with. For example, being a male, it is common and often stereotypical to desire for a woman partner to be beautiful, long wavy hair, big breasts, wide hips for childbirth for next generations and importantly - submissive and demure, etc.
As NO two Humans think alike, women TOO have their own high expectations, and theirs are more pragmatic - true love, trust, security for life often dependent on finances that can at least put food on the table for themselves and future generations to come, not necessarily a billionaire male partner....
In short, are you a player seeking short term physical beauty companionship, or a long term commitment driven monogamous lover whom seeks beyond the physical seeking a partner to share in the journey of life even when both are aged and feeble, and yet still holding hands with looks of love walking along the beach of a beautiful sunset?
Should you be the former, you will face obstacles manifold, but if you are the latter, you will have a wide open field of choices, beginning thru honest simple dates with friends and colleagues at work or at play such as sports or events, to get to know one another better......
...a dilemma since ancient times - marry the one you desire for, or the one who loves you.....
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