Redditer: Is anyone the child of an affair?

[Flibbertigibbet]

Is anyone the child of an affair?​

General

I’m a child of an affair where everyone is Singaporean/ living in Singapore. Dad and wife are officially married and have 2 kids (younger kid one year older than me). Dad met my mum at work and has had a 25 year affair with her, right until his death. No one in my family, especially my mum wants to talk about it. Not sure if dad’s wife knows and never met her. Feels so strange.

Am against affairs and cheating. Not sure how the previous generation perceived this. Curious to know if there are others in the same boat.

 

[rocket]

Is anyone the child of an affair?​

General

I’m a child of an affair where everyone is Singaporean/ living in Singapore. Dad and wife are officially married and have 2 kids (younger kid one year older than me). Dad met my mum at work and has had a 25 year affair with her, right until his death. No one in my family, especially my mum wants to talk about it. Not sure if dad’s wife knows and never met her. Feels so strange.

Am against affairs and cheating. Not sure how the previous generation perceived this. Curious to know if there are others in the same boat.

Then the dad must be v rich.

 

[Dongyi]

You mean son of a chicken mother ?

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

You mean son of a chicken mother ?

Never asked my mother whether I was one...probably too she sitive for her to handle my questioning...

 

[Sustanon]

 

[Dongyi]

Never asked my mother whether I was one...probably too she sitive for her to handle my questioning...

No need to ask. Someone else confirmed liao ... many times confirmed.

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

No need to ask. Someone else confirmed liao ... many times confirmed.

Its ok lah. She happy can already. Happy for her too that she can now have a proper family with AMDK.

 

[Dongyi]

Its ok lah. She happy can already. Happy for her too that she can now have a proper family with AMDK.

Married ? If married, your condo is under her name, if she is gone, it goes to AMDK.

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

Married ? If married, your condo is under her name, if she is gone, it goes to AMDK.

She already put in will to me. But always threaten to change if I dont get married... but I am sure she bluff one lah. Get married can force one meh. Knn! Anyway, her AMDK is super rich type so no need her peanut condo or monies...

 

[Dongyi]

She already put in will to me. But always threaten to change if I dont get married... but I am sure she bluff one lah. Get married can force one meh. Knn! Anyway, her AMDK is super rich type so no need her peanut condo or monies...

First, is she married to AMDK. If married, was the Will made before or after the marriage. If before, bo pa kei liao.

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

First, is she married to AMDK. If married, was the Will made before or after the marriage. If before, bo pa kei liao.

Will is after her marriage

 

[Dongyi]

Will is after her marriage

You should have your mother transfer the condo to you before your marriage so that, in the event of a divorce, your "ex-wife" would not have a claim over it. However, there’s one more important point to keep in mind: even if the condo is transferred to you before the marriage, you should avoid living in it together with your wife. Once it becomes your matrimonial home, it may be subject to division in a divorce, meaning she could still have a claim to it.

You must learn how to fight the Women's Charter. ​

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

You should have your mother transfer the condo to you before your marriage so that, in the event of a divorce, your "ex-wife" would not have a claim over it. However, there’s one more important point to keep in mind: even if the condo is transferred to you before the marriage, you should avoid living in it together with your wife. Once it becomes your matrimonial home, it may be subject to division in a divorce, meaning she could still have a claim to it.

You must learn how to fight the Women's Charter. ​

But if transfer now got to pay stamp duty?
Transfer at her death must pay stamp duty?

 

[Dongyi]

But if transfer now got to pay stamp duty?
Transfer at her death must pay stamp duty?

Yes, transfer now must pay stamp duty. If you mother includes your name as a joint-tenant, you pay 50% of BSD, but not ABSD, if you are a first-time owner.

Transfer at her death is estate duty, and your favorite PAP has abolished it.

 

[Dongyi]

You should also be concerned about a situationship turning into a situation if the woman decides to sabotage you.

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

Yes, transfer now must pay stamp duty. If you mother includes your name as a joint-tenant, you pay 50% of BSD, but not ABSD, if you are a first-time owner.

Transfer at her death is estate duty, and your favorite PAP has abolished it.

Then better leave it as it is. Why waste money pay the government just to get my name on the property now.

My other concern is also if I get my name on the condo now, then I cannot apply BTO or buy a resale flat. Then machiam like I serve National Service for what lor...

 

[Rabbit7]

Is anyone the child of an affair?​

General

I’m a child of an affair where everyone is Singaporean/ living in Singapore. Dad and wife are officially married and have 2 kids (younger kid one year older than me). Dad met my mum at work and has had a 25 year affair with her, right until his death. No one in my family, especially my mum wants to talk about it. Not sure if dad’s wife knows and never met her. Feels so strange.

Am against affairs and cheating. Not sure how the previous generation perceived this. Curious to know if there are others in the same boat.

..then You belong to an Elite Class of Geniuses such as,

1. Steve Jobs
2. Larry Ellison, Oracle Founder
3. Jeff Bezos, Amazon
..and many others

No Big Deal.


Redirect that Negative Energies into creating something Brilliant

 

[Sustanon]

You should have your mother transfer the condo to you before your marriage so that, in the event of a divorce, your "ex-wife" would not have a claim over it. However, there’s one more important point to keep in mind: even if the condo is transferred to you before the marriage, you should avoid living in it together with your wife. Once it becomes your matrimonial home, it may be subject to division in a divorce, meaning she could still have a claim to it.

You must learn how to fight the Women's Charter. ​

claim simi??? bring her to spain for a holiday to watch beautiful sunset near the cliff edge lor.... so romantic... to reconcile the relationship mah....

 

[Flibbertigibbet]

claim simi??? bring her to spain for a holiday to watch beautiful sunset near the cliff edge lor.... so romantic... to reconcile the relationship mah....

Then become Mitchell Ong and Audrey Fang again?

 

[Worm]

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