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12h ago•Edited 12h ago
If i may offer some pov from the other side, sex is very very important in a relationship. So many long-term relationships have ended due to a lack of sex, and so many more are suffering thru their sexless relationships. Especially with same-age peers in the dating pool, they may have just came out of their own previous such relationships, and everyone is also thinking they dont have much time to waste on yet another future relationship that would fail.
So the most logical straightforward thinking would be, if right now my soon-to-be partner is already showing that she (he, also, but we all agree usually it is framed with more gender bias) is not interested in sex, right now, it doesnt take too much imagination to see how much worse it will get in future, with age, with kids, with more shared responsibilities, etcetcetc. It is really too high of a risk with too low-confidence to take.
Hence the overzealousness in trying to sus out this major component of a long-term relationship, before you commit and realize oh shit this isn't what you want.
I believe the same goes for other topics and for the other side too. How many times have you heard guys complaining that the woman straightaway asks him what he works as, how much he earns, if he is driving, where he stays etcetc. Likewise it is to sus out his status and financial strength now, before you commit and realize oh shit this isnt what you want.
He 1st date already bring you mcdonalds, omg 2-3 years down the road confirm downgrade to kopitiam $3 meals pay with CDC voucher. I think quite unlikely you two will be going for atas $200 per pax 3 course dining once every 2 weeks.
Same same lor