Redditer: For fellow believers who struggle with sexual immorality

[Nut]

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For fellow believers who struggle with sexual immorality​

I recently posted about this, but I think it didn't offer the help I intended so I will lay a list out of what has finally helped me out of all forms of sexual immorality.

1. Remove games, shows, social media, or anyother form of content that has sexual themes.
2. Replace music with worship or instrumental music.
3. Read the Bible everyday
4. Pray often, just commune with God, not asking for anything just spending time with him
5. Acknowledging that your going to mess up, it's more about the mindstate then the sin itself. Because the goal is to desexualize your brain
6. Acknowledge that the hypersexual world we live in today is not normal, and that basically everything regarding sex today is demonic.
7. Accept that you can't do it in your strength and that the Holy Spirit will guide you and cleanse your heart one day at a time.
8. Trust in his promise that if he started a work in you, he will finish it. So just trust in Jesus, and continue to resist and fail and repeat until eventually your mind is renewed to the point of the sin being completely disgusting to you.
9. Pray to God concerning your struggles
10. Be willing to leave behind things that you previously enjoyed.
11. Understand that marriage isn't a ticket to unlimited sex and that many people abuse the gift of marriage.
12. Understand that many forms of sex today are actually sinful
13. Learn to run from sin with your eyes.
14. Become sensitive to sexual sin. If she looks like a pornstar she is a pornstar(This one's going to get me in trouble)

These are a few things that have been helping me along this journey. Though I can honestly say just trusting in Jesus is definitely the most powerful tip because when you do so, it feels very easy. You don't have to try, it feels effortless. And this is coming from someone who would literally masturbate from sexual tension alone. I'm a living testimony that, it's not something you have to born with, Jesus will help you and it will become easy. It is not of our strength but his. This isn’t NoFap but a work of the Holy Spirit. Hallelujah

It reminds me of these verses in the Bible.

Matthew 11:28-30: Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Ezekiel 36:26-27 (NIV): God promises to put a new spirit within you and cause you to walk in His statutes.

Zechariah 4:6 (NIV): "...‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord Almighty".

 

[Nut]

Master @Dongyi

Will this work for ACS boy who loves and adores upskirt photos?

Yoir most learned opinion is greatly appreciated.

 

[eatshitndie]

in this case better be taoist believers. 房中術 is a fundamental set of taoist beliefs in sexuality: arts of the bedchamber where “joining of the essences” is part of yin and yang, balance of the universe, union of male and female bodies and souls to produce another body and soul in order for sentient beings to progress from one level of sexistence to another.

 

[Dongyi]

Master @Dongyi

Will this work for ACS boy who loves and adores upskirt photos?

Yoir most learned opinion is greatly appreciated.

Your situation is not all that different from that of the Son of Dunearn ("SoD").

Both of you appreciate God's creation. The SoD engages his imagination, aided by visual stimuli, while remaining faithful to his marriage vows. You, on the other hand, take a more hands-on approach as you explore mountains and tunnels beyond the boundaries of marriage.

As for the article you shared, the more fundamental question is: Why should anyone abstain from sex? In point 6, the author claims that "basically everything regarding sex today is demonic." If that is the case, then what exactly happens every night between pastors and their wives?

The truth is that people are not, as the author claims, struggling with sexual immorality. Believers or not, they are enjoying sexual immorality. The author is most likely displaying sour grapes.​

 

[Nut]

The truth is that people are not, as the author claims, struggling with sexual immorality. Believers or not, they are enjoying sexual immorality. The author is most likely displaying sour grapes.

Why everything also sour grapes?

 

[Dongyi]

Why everything also sour grapes?

If you cannot handle the truth, or if you lack the linguistic finesse to advance your arguments, the easiest course is to resort to character assassination and attack your opponent's credibility. Simply dismissing someone as "sour grapes" distracts from the substance of the discussion and invites your opponent to expound on an entirely different issue: why he is not a case of sour grapes. ​

 

[Nut]

If you cannot handle the truth, or if you lack the linguistic finesse to advance your arguments, the easiest course is to resort to character assassination and attack your opponent's credibility. Simply dismissing someone as "sour grapes" distracts from the substance of the discussion and invites your opponent to expound on an entirely different issue: why he is not a case of sour grapes. ​

Your understanding of human psychology is excellent.

To describe you, I say you are 大智若愚, 顺藤摸瓜 and certainly very 明察秋毫.

 

[lianbeng]

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For fellow believers who struggle with sexual immorality​

I recently posted about this, but I think it didn't offer the help I intended so I will lay a list out of what has finally helped me out of all forms of sexual immorality.

1. Remove games, shows, social media, or anyother form of content that has sexual themes.
2. Replace music with worship or instrumental music.
3. Read the Bible everyday
4. Pray often, just commune with God, not asking for anything just spending time with him
5. Acknowledging that your going to mess up, it's more about the mindstate then the sin itself. Because the goal is to desexualize your brain
6. Acknowledge that the hypersexual world we live in today is not normal, and that basically everything regarding sex today is demonic.
7. Accept that you can't do it in your strength and that the Holy Spirit will guide you and cleanse your heart one day at a time.
8. Trust in his promise that if he started a work in you, he will finish it. So just trust in Jesus, and continue to resist and fail and repeat until eventually your mind is renewed to the point of the sin being completely disgusting to you.
9. Pray to God concerning your struggles
10. Be willing to leave behind things that you previously enjoyed.
11. Understand that marriage isn't a ticket to unlimited sex and that many people abuse the gift of marriage.
12. Understand that many forms of sex today are actually sinful
13. Learn to run from sin with your eyes.
14. Become sensitive to sexual sin. If she looks like a pornstar she is a pornstar(This one's going to get me in trouble)

These are a few things that have been helping me along this journey. Though I can honestly say just trusting in Jesus is definitely the most powerful tip because when you do so, it feels very easy. You don't have to try, it feels effortless. And this is coming from someone who would literally masturbate from sexual tension alone. I'm a living testimony that, it's not something you have to born with, Jesus will help you and it will become easy. It is not of our strength but his. This isn’t NoFap but a work of the Holy Spirit. Hallelujah

It reminds me of these verses in the Bible.

Matthew 11:28-30: Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. 29 Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.”

Ezekiel 36:26-27 (NIV): God promises to put a new spirit within you and cause you to walk in His statutes.

Zechariah 4:6 (NIV): "...‘Not by might nor by power, but by my Spirit,’ says the Lord Almighty".

lianbeng knows some pastors and preachers enjoying porn and going to Geylang also lah!