Redditer: Being in a long term relationship post-fwb days

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Being in a long term relationship post-fwb days​

I need advice!

Not sure if this is an appropriate place to post / ask. This is for the people who has been through the hookup / fwb days and are now in a relationship.... May I ask, do you get occasions when you still think of your past sexual experiences, or think about hooking up with someone else?

I am in a long-term relationship (>2yrs) and I (M) genuinely believe that we both love each other. I love my partner but sometimes I just can't help but my brain would wonder into those unfaithful thoughts. I feel kind of guilty for these thoughts. I am just wondering whether if there is anyone out there in my shoes, going through the same thing?

Not trying to bring morals into this topic, but I personally think that thoughts are just thoughts and as long as I don't act on it, it's not cheating (exposed to lots of cheating cases recently and I don't condone such acts).

Could it be a deeper issue like sex-life with my partner? Or is this the consequence that I have to suffer for living those promiscuous days in the past? I have seen some youtube videos that shares that this could be one of those negative effects for people that had multiple sexual partners.