Mid-Life Crisis

[Logisex]

After the CNY holidays, I've been feeling aloof and could not seems to be able to transit into my new job role.

All of a sudden, I think I'm feeling exactly like Kevin Spacey in the movie "American Beauty". I can't remember when was the last time I had sex with my wife, would rather DIY though I'm thinking of a LTF (lunch time fark) with a teenage girl now. I've lost interest in almost everything and always has the urge of calling my boss up and tell him I quit.

I feel like a zombie at times. Other times I would just drift into space. What the fark is going on.........

 

[Rogue Trader]

Time to buy a sports car.

 

[Logisex]

Can't afford one.

I feeling like going home now to watch "American Beauty" all over again though I have a report to submit to boss by today.

 

[mercbenz]

Hello Logisex, try waking up at 5am in the morning, do some excercise before breakfast. Simple brisk walk will do, and make sure you wear full length sport suits to induce perspiration.

I find this routine highly invigorating, it will increase your metabolism, energy level for the whole day, even improve your sexual performance

 

[myfoot123]

After the CNY holidays, I've been feeling aloof and could not seems to be able to transit into my new job role.

I've lost interest in almost everything and always has the urge of calling my boss up and tell him I quit.

I feel like a zombie at times. Other times I would just drift into space. What the fark is going on.........

You just found a job and not quite able to settle in? Like to share with us your obstacles - colleagues or work problems. Working for someone else really sucks, unless you have a plan to do your own business just to have some small income to get by before thinking of a bigger plan ahead. Hang on there.

 

[myfoot123]

Your situation sound like mine in the past. I worked in a small company with easy job and good pay but somehow there was no motivation for me to carry on to work there, something is just missing in the company that do not give me the spur to contribute further. I ended up eating lots of supplements to get by the day until I call it quit. It sound silly but happiness is not measured by the amount or length of time you spend in work but the substance of it.

 

[Logisex]

It's a new position created by my new boss as he wants to capitalise on my expertise for his pet projects. I used to manage a 30 staff team but its a one man show now though I'm given a lot of flexibility to start from ground zero. I was also given an honorary seat in the company management committee though I'm not suppose to be in since I'm not a department head anymore.

So it seems I have nothing to complain about (other than the pay) but it just doesn't really sink in, which is why I'm wondering what the fark its all about.

 

[Ash007]

Hmm maybe you felt this way because you have lost what you want in life? You felt you are not "achieving" what you want to do? If sex is what you crave for, why not go JB/Batam and find a syt? I'm sure you would be able to afford that.

 

[Logisex]

Your situation sound like mine in the past. I worked in a small company with easy job and good pay but somehow there was no motivation for me to carry on to work there, something is just missing in the company that do not give me the spur to contribute further. I ended up eating lots of supplements to get by the day until I call it quit. It sound silly but happiness is not measured by the amount or length of time you spend in work but the substance of it.

I'm on supplements too and I also has the feeling that my bosses just wanna wayanag with all those so called re-engineering projects so that they can show off to their bosses and get that promotion asap.

 

[myfoot123]

It's a new position created by my new boss as he wants to capitalise on my expertise for his pet projects. I used to manage a 30 staff team but its a one man show now though I'm given a lot of flexibility to start from ground zero. I was also given an honorary seat in the company management committee though I'm not suppose to be in since I'm not a department head anymore.

So it seems I have nothing to complain about (other than the pay) but it just doesn't really sink in, which is why I'm wondering what the fark its all about.

Your perspective will need to change from a leader with many staffs to one-man-show. Ego and pay are some of the main factors people look in for job. Most importantly, you are still recognised for your service and your boss still listened to you. Given the current job market, your current post may be well sought-after by many. Think carefully, keep calm, write down 10 negative and positive reasons for staying put and follow where your heart lead you without any regret thereafter. Get a job before you resign

 

[oli9]

After the CNY holidays, I've been feeling aloof and could not seems to be able to transit into my new job role.

All of a sudden, I think I'm feeling exactly like Kevin Spacey in the movie "American Beauty". I can't remember when was the last time I had sex with my wife, would rather DIY though I'm thinking of a LTF (lunch time fark) with a teenage girl now. I've lost interest in almost everything and always has the urge of calling my boss up and tell him I quit.

I feel like a zombie at times. Other times I would just drift into space. What the fark is going on.........

If youre heaed this way & feel lost ala "American beauty" then i suggest you should smoke pot or ganja & listen to Hendrix's "American Women" or maybe Dylan's "All Along the watch Tower" & give your employer the red card & find a job at our local McDonald's.

 

[Rogue Trader]

It's a new position created by my new boss as he wants to capitalise on my expertise for his pet projects. I used to manage a 30 staff team but its a one man show now though I'm given a lot of flexibility to start from ground zero. I was also given an honorary seat in the company management committee though I'm not suppose to be in since I'm not a department head anymore.

So it seems I have nothing to complain about (other than the pay) but it just doesn't really sink in, which is why I'm wondering what the fark its all about.

i think your boss given u a good opportunity. handling projects is a definitely more challenging than day to day operational work since it test your management of time and resources.
if you stick to doing operational work, it's very hard for him to see your strengths. if you perform in this role you will definitely be visible to other department heads.

 

[RonRon]

this is sign of depression..take this 2 tables a day every morning and you will be fine

 

[Logisex]

i think your boss given u a good opportunity. handling projects is a definitely more challenging than day to day operational work since it test your management of time and resources.
if you stick to doing operational work, it's very hard for him to see your strengths. if you perform in this role you will definitely be visible to other department heads.

That's what people tell me. Its a make or break job. It will either make me famous for breaking new grounds or famous for not delivering the goods

 

[johnny333]

I feel like a zombie at times. Other times I would just drift into space. What the fark is going on.........

Many will eventually get tired of the rat race, materialism, routine,...

Find a hobby or if you can afford it quit & do something that you really like.

 

[Logisex]

If youre heaed this way & feel lost ala "American beauty" then i suggest you should smoke pot or ganja & listen to Hendrix's "American Women" or maybe Dylan's "All Along the watch Tower" & give your employer the red card & find a job at our local McDonald's.

Drugs are not for me, I don't really like Hendrix songs But Macdonald did cross my mind........

 

[oli9]

Drugs are not for me, I don't really like Hendrix songs But Macdonald did cross my mind........

ganja & pot are not addictive & it can give u an open mind.. And i thought you want to do a Spacey...cheyyy......

 

[Logisex]

ganja & pot are not addictive & it can give u an open mind.. And i thought you want to do a Spacey...cheyyy......

I'm not there yet but I'm already on the way.........

 

[Logisex]

this is sign of depression..take this 2 tables a day every morning and you will be fine

I've been there done that years ago.

 

[Logisex]

Your perspective will need to change from a leader with many staffs to one-man-show. Ego and pay are some of the main factors people look in for job. Most importantly, you are still recognised for your service and your boss still listened to you. Given the current job market, your current post may be well sought-after by many. Think carefully, keep calm, write down 10 negative and positive reasons for staying put and follow where your heart lead you without any regret thereafter. Get a job before you resign

There are things that I wanna do and there are realities and expectations from everyone. I could have divorce my wife, sell my house, get the next flight home and spend time with my mum...........without regrets? It just feels weird given the seemingly ggod position I'm in now.