POSTED BY KAYLA MATTHEWS
I was labeled as the nice girl my entire life. Mostly, because I was shy and quiet and no one knew how to handle that so the kids at school just said I was nice, and it stuck.
Looking back at this I’ve realized how detrimental it can be to hold yourself to this standard.
When you focus on being nice you end up ignoring how you really feel and what you want, and you let people mistreat you because you’re too nice to tell them to f*** off (at least these have been some of my experiences).
I think many nice people like myself get caught up because we think we’re being good people. We believe we’re doing some kind of service to those around us by holding back our criticisms and saying something purely nice instead.
You can have strong opinions and still be a kind person. You can stand up for yourself and still care about what someone has to say. Human beings are dynamic like that.
It’s not in anyone’s best interest if you go out of your way to be nice. In fact, being nice can be detrimental to you and those around you in a number of ways.
Interesting .... I think it is good to have a balanced approach to life ... just nice
