Just look at how many cases of Malay incest come to light only after going on for years, usually stepfather on stepdaughter or brother on sister... and mummy diam sahaja. Until something happens like domestic violence, or drugs, or the victim finally musters the courage (with the encouragement of friends) to make a police report. Even for domestic violence, most Muslim women will put up with it because of the mistaken assumption you have to submit to your husband. Modern Chinese women will walk out and file for divorce right away. I had a Malay woman friend who sustained years of sexual abuse from her husband, literally marital rape - sex during menses, waking her up in the middle of the night for oral sex, anal sex causing pain and bleeding, BDSM. On the verge of mental breakdown. Tapi dia diam aje sampai laki dia ada lain baru nak bercerai. Tak tau nak cakap apa ni.