Is there a 'male friendship recession' in Singapore?
https://www.channelnewsasia.com/commentary/friendships-men-women-mental-health-wellbeing-3620571From an interpersonal perspective, men may be socialised to be less expressive, choosing to shoulder burdens in life silently. They may be less willing to seek help from others, opting instead to face their challenges alone. Sociological and evolutionary research suggests that men may view relationships more transactionally, placing greater emphasis on the potential tangible benefits they could gain from it, such as career advancements, financial gain and status acquisition.
Male conversations groups can facilitate discussions on sensitive topics such as concepts of masculinity and sexuality. These places need to be ideologically and politically neutral but allow meaningful conversations around sensitive topics.
Furthermore, given that men tend to form friendships through shared goals, initiatives that aim to help men foster better relationships could be less dialogue-focused and more action-oriented.
Besides broader top-down efforts, individual level effort from men is also essential for them to foster higher quality relationships. For example, engaging in activities that do not overtly benefit them - through interest and volunteer groups, for instance - could be a way to meet new people in a more neutral setting.
Furthermore, men need to be kinder and more compassionate with themselves, to recognise when they need support and learn how to be more open to seeking it. Doing so requires an intentional effort to let go of whatever holds them back from reaching out.
