As we had been married for a decade, we didn’t have to go through a separation of three years. Now, I’m the happiest I’ve ever been. When my marriage ended, a sense of relief washed over me. Even the way I speak to people is different. My advice to a woman in an unhappy marriage is to take a step back and focus on what you need – we tend to internalise things, so it’s important to write down your thoughts. If both parties are willing, try therapy, but at the very least, learn to look after yourself first.