He does not become a fool simply because you call him one. He does not become fat simply because you wish it so. More often than not, when we make assumptions about people we barely know, we are trying to soothe our own insecurities. In doing so, we reveal our hopes and biases more than we uncover any truth about them.
Just as Anglo-Chinese School does not become a mediocre school simply because you think Raffles Institution is the better school, a person does not become lesser simply because another chooses to view him unfavorably. This impulse to elevate one thing by diminishing another is a form of triangulation, a term used in psychology to describe the tendency to compare or position a third party in order to validate one’s perception or emotional stance.
If you had not looked at the deacon through a jaundiced eye, you might have arrived at a very different conclusion. As the Bible teaches:
“The eye is the lamp of the body. If your eyes are healthy, your whole body will be full of light. But if your eyes are unhealthy, your whole body will be full of darkness.” (Matthew 6:22-23)
Our perception shapes not only how we see others,
but also the condition of our own hearts and minds.
This is how I envision the deacon:




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