3 steps to decide whether she's the girl of your life

[jw5]

Some are faithful due to deep religious/moral conviction.

For most men though, they're faithful to only one woman, because that's the best they can hope to accomplish.
If you're starving, even plain white bread tastes nice.

Agree with both the above points.
I have another theory why certain men are faithful.
It's because they are possessive.
So possessive that they can't even bear to be unfaithful to the woman they are possessive about.
Of course, that woman could also be a mistress.
Once the woman becomes unfaithful, the possessive man will go unfaithfully wild!

 

[Clone]

Sex is the last thing on my mind when I am fascinated over a woman. The wanting to f**k her part will only set in a week or 2 later after the initial euphoria wears off.

And what's the big fuss about straying? As a wife, if my husband cannot stray, then I worry.

 

[jw5]

Sex is the last thing on my mind when I am fascinated over a woman. The wanting to f**k her part will only set in a week or 2 later after the initial euphoria wears off.

Perhaps u are one of those "not-so-horny" men I was referring to.

 

[Rogue Trader]

I'm going to post a couple of articles which I found years ago and thought makes a lot of sense. 'Girlfriend' and 'wife' can be interchangeable..


12 Questions to ask about a potential girlfriend

Here are some guideline questions in order for you to evaluate thesuitability of a female as a girlfriend. I'm talking here about a potentialserious girlfriend, rather than a casual fling. None of the questions aredesigned to be taken in isolation, they are designed to be used together toform an overall picture.

1. What are her family like?
The apple never falls far from the tree. Children of divorced parents arethemselves more likely to get divorced. Children often end up displaying manyof the personality traits of their parents.

2. What is her relationship with her parents like?
A difficult relationship can be indicative of some kind of emotionalproblem. Children who have suffered an emotional abandonment by one or moreparents can later develop borderline personality disorder. Please avoid thesepeople.

3. Does she have an older brother that she respects?
This can be a good sign, as she will have grown up accustomed to dealingwith a male somewhat "in power" over her, and often used to lookingup to a male as trustworthy and intelligent. This is just my opinion, I'm sureother people could pick out exceptions to this rule.

4. Are her beliefs similar to yours?
Relationships work best when the parties involved have broadly similaroutlooks on life. The two big ones being political inclinations and religiousbeliefs.

5. Is she frequently sarcastic or belittling to you?
Bad sign. Drop her like a toilet seat.

6. Is she very inconsistent in her behaviour? ie blows hot and cold
Again, a bad sign. Drop her like a toilet seat & flush her away.

7. Does she do unusual things that you find annoying/disrespectful then actas though they are normal (causing you to question your own reactions)?
Bad sign. This is provocative behaviour, often designed to test your limits.Stand your ground; tell her its "my way or the highway".

8. What are her friends like?
If her friends are tolerable its a far better sign than if they are
intolerable. Not only do a person's friends tell you a lot about them, but thechances are that you will have to spend a lot of time with them during thecoming months/years.

9. Does she agree to your requests?
Ask her to do something small, and see if she does it. ie. if your going tothe cinema together, ask her to book the tickets before you meet up. Ask her tolet her hair down/put it up in a ponytail. Just a small request. Whether shecomplies or not is very indicative.

10. Do you have lots of doubts about her? ie a bad "gut feeling"
Always go with your gut feeling, its usually correct.

11. Has she slept with a large number of men?
Difficult to find out, but with a little careful, well-judged probing youmight be able to get some indication.

12. Does she seem to have had a long string of problem boyfriends?
Bad sign. She is unconsciously creating this pattern in her life, and thechances are she will want to manipulate events to make you appear to be thenext bad guy.

 

[Rogue Trader]

17 Warning Signs of a Lousy Girlfriend

You know the girl you're thinking about marrying is wrong for you if she hasno friends, your siblings don't like her, and her credit history doesn't checkout. Sometimes the best words of wisdom don't come from academics or scientistswith impressive titles and educational credentials. Sometimes the best advicecomes from people who have been there and done that. Such is the case with arecent letter published in the syndicated Dear Abby advice column that listed17 signs that your girlfriend is NOT the one you should marry.

A married man who said his wife now wanted a divorce passed along tips forthe not-yet-married. If you see these red flags, he advises, dump the girl:

1. If your parents or siblings have doubts about her, pay attention. Listenand check it out.

2. If your intended has nothing good to say about her ex, beware. This is apattern. Divorce is rarely only one person's fault.

3. If her children have nothing to do with her, do not believe her if shesays her ex brainwashed them against her. My stepchildren have told me it wasbecause they hated her, and they have good reasons.

4. Look closely at her credit and job history. They are sure predictors ofwhat your life will be like.

5. If she's over 30 and has no money, do not let her move in with you, anddon't marry her until she's financially solvent. If she has any respect for you(and herself), she'll insist on it.

6. Be sure in your heart that you can live with her AS IS. You cannot changeanother person.

7. This is a biggie: Beware if she has no friends. It is not true that theyall chose to side with her ex.

8. If your friends dislike her, pay attention. This is also true if shehates your friends.

9.If she has more than one beer and still drinks, run!

10. If she is one personality at work or with others, and another personalone with you, run.

11. If she has nothing to do with her parents, investigate why. Don't takeher word for it.

12. If she's an expert at everything and brags a lot, understand that shewill turn off a lot of people, eventually maybe even you.

13. If she has sexual problems, go with her to a doctor before you marryher. Believe me, her problem will become your problem.

14. If she is emotionally or verbally abusive, it will only get worse.Yelling, name-calling and glowering are classic signs of an abuser.

15. If she is never wrong and never apologizes, everything will be"your fault" forever. And after years of hearing it, you may evenstart to accept the blame.

16. If she does something wrong and says, "That wouldn't have happenedif you hadn't ( )," that's another sign of an abuser.

17. And if she's mean to children, pets or animals, recognize that she'spathological, and the next victim could be you

 

[jw5]

Another warning sign is when your gf supports her family members in everything they say or do.
For example if you have a disagreement or even simply a difference of opinion with one of her family members, she supports them each and every time.
Imagine if she does that before marriage, what do u think she will be like after marriage?
It's about the ability to reason logically, of course u can't expect her to be against them every time as well. That would be another warning sign.

 

[Clone]

Is it that hard to lord over your wife/GF? And I am not talking about via physical means.

Relationships are just a simple game of politicking between two individuals. Who dares win!

 

[laksaboy]

Another warning sign is when your gf supports her family members in everything they say or do.
For example if you have a disagreement or even simply a difference of opinion with one of her family members, she supports them each and every time.
Imagine if she does that before marriage, what do u think she will be like after marriage?
It's about the ability to reason logically, of course u can't expect her to be against them every time as well. That would be another warning sign.

Nobody said that you should marry a girlfriend, much less meet with her family members (or let her meet yours).

Have sex with her, and when she pushes for deeper commitment, tell her that the bus is leaving at 4 o'clock and she should be under it.

Too many Sinkie men cling onto their girlfriend like a lifeboat. Especially those nerdy types who marry their first girlfriend, who immediately start planning/projecting the estimated marriage date (e.g. first date: early 2011, propose by mid 2013!) in the back of their minds.

smh @ them.

 

[Papsmearer]

Why u never say this earlier?

Aiyah, if your wife has porn star ability, this is understood mah.

 

[Ash007]

I've been told to check the following 3 signs.

1) If you are poor, out of job, no money. See if she is still with you.

2) You have a health problem and need someone to take care of you. See if she is still with you.

3) You reach old age, can't get it up anymore. Kuku can't even go up anymore. See if she is still with you without being unfaithful.

If she passes all these 3 steps she is yours truly.

 

[Papsmearer]

I've been told to check the following 3 signs.

1) If you are poor, out of job, no money. See if she is still with you.

2) You have a health problem and need someone to take care of you. See if she is still with you.

3) You reach old age, can't get it up anymore. Kuku can't even go up anymore. See if she is still with you without being unfaithful.

If she passes all these 3 steps she is yours truly.

The questioned is asked how do u know if she is the right girl AT AN EARLY STAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. What u identify is things that happen when u are years into the relationship.

 

[Ash007]

Step 1 can be done by not telling her you are rich, or have X amount of money in the bank etc. step 2, harder, but still possible, most men goes through some sort of major operation once in their life time. Step 3, I suppose if you have the will power can be achieved even if you are young.

The questioned is asked how do u know if she is the right girl AT AN EARLY STAGE IN THE RELATIONSHIP. What u identify is things that happen when u are years into the relationship.

 

[jw5]

Is it that hard to lord over your wife/GF? And I am not talking about via physical means.

Relationships are just a simple game of politicking between two individuals. Who dares win!

It's all about leverage. And not what Aaron Kutcher meant when he wondered about leverage in space.

 

[jw5]

Nobody said that you should marry a girlfriend, much less meet with her family members (or let her meet yours).

Have sex with her, and when she pushes for deeper commitment, tell her that the bus is leaving at 4 o'clock and she should be under it.

That's what I say these days, but not so fierce, tell her that the bus is leaving at 4 o'clock and I will be on it. :o

Btw, I like my laksa with yellow noodles and not the slimy chor bee hoon type. Just had it yesterday. :p

 

[Clone]

It's all about leverage. And not what Aaron Kutcher meant when he wondered about leverage in space.

So what in your opinion Sinkie guys are lacking here to gain an edge in this game of leverage? I see most of my kakis are henpecked! :p

 

[jw5]

So what in your opinion Sinkie guys are lacking here to gain an edge in this game of leverage? I see most of my kakis are henpecked! :p

Being henpecked will actually make for a happy marriage, at least a smooth one if not happy.

There was once a few friends were discussing all the couples we knew, we agreed that the smooth marriages are usually those where either party is henpecked or cockpecked.

The sad truth is that most of those people who look for leverage tend to remain single.

 

[bushtucker]

marriage in sinkapoor with the women's charter stacked against you? no thanks!

 

[tonychat]

Being henpecked will actually make for a happy marriage, at least a smooth one if not happy.

There was once a few friends were discussing all the couples we knew, we agreed that the smooth marriages are usually those where either party is henpecked or cockpecked.

The sad truth is that most of those people who look for leverage tend to remain single.

Henpecked and cockpeck are for sinkie marriage, not for real human marriage.

 

[Rogue Trader]

So what in your opinion Sinkie guys are lacking here to gain an edge in this game of leverage? I see most of my kakis are henpecked! :p

Seriously, what is the modern man's leverage over woman? Like men they are well educated and able to be financially independent. The edge they have over us is ability to bear offsprings (with a help of a sperm donor of course). Men risk becoming irrelevant in the modern world.

 

[GagakHitam]

bro, try her first, if she's good in bed and gives you a good blow (comes in handy when u need quick fix), u can consider.
If she cooks well and serves you, this one pruss10 points, coz no need to eat out.
If she has a good heart and make her cry many many, means she cares alot about you and your feelings.

if she passes these 3 stages, ok this one worth it la.