(ACS Boy) He claims to love his wife but fantasize another woman during "make up" SEX

[duluxe]

He truly loves his wife

 

[duluxe]

@True Believer, you are lying throw your tooth and using "apprection the beuty of God's creation" as easy excuse.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Thinking of another woman during sex with his wife is the first stage. Then before he knows it…the person is a man. Finally, he will start scouring around for gay message boards at petrol kiosk restrooms.

 

[Ah Max]

Thinking of another woman during sex with his wife is the first stage. Then before he knows it…the person is a man. Finally, he will start scouring around for gay message boards at petrol kiosk restrooms.

seabass lol

 

[DaoMa]

Thinking of another woman while having sex with wife

Vs

Thinking of another woman other than your wife during self masturbation

Are they the same in terms of moral culpability?

 

[Dongyi]

Thinking of another woman while having sex with wife

Vs

Thinking of another woman other than your wife during self masturbation

Are they the same in terms of moral culpability?

Very good question.

 

[DaoMa]

Very good question.

AI says:

Thinking of another person during self-masturbation is generally considered a private mental exercise and is widely accepted within modern relationships, as long as it doesn't replace intimacy. Conversely, mentally substituting your wife for someone else while having sex with her can cause emotional detachment, making it a higher moral concern.

The Context of Masturbation
Fantasizing during solo masturbation is normal and very common. Because the act is entirely self-contained, these private thoughts do not cross into infidelity for most couples. It is viewed as an internal mechanism for arousal rather than a breach of the marital commitment.

The Context of Partnered Sex
Intimacy with a spouse is an active, shared experience meant for mutual connection. Mentally replacing your partner with someone else during sex can be perceived as a form of emotional detachment or "emotional cheating". It risks treating your wife as a physical prop rather than engaging with her fully, which can impact relationship trust if she discovers it.

For varying perspectives on how people navigate boundaries, fantasies, and intimacy in their marriages:

Shared Relationship Perspectives
Discussions in community forums and relationship columns highlight that while solo fantasies are generally seen as harmless, bringing external fantasies into partnered sex is often viewed as a breach of intimacy.

“I think fantasies are a safe place to explore stuff you would not do in real life. So fantasizing about other people? It's fine. It's just fantasy. It's not cheating on your partner if you masturbate to whatever fantasies you dream up.”

“That's technically cheating but not really. If u can think about someone else during esx then you can definitely cheat on your partner....maybe it inspires not masturbating and thinking of another person is wrong and emotional cheating is happening.”

 

[duluxe]

Thinking of another woman during sex with his wife is the first stage. Then before he knows it…the person is a man. Finally, he will start scouring around for gay message boards at petrol kiosk restrooms.

He can be groomed into a gay or at least a gay's toy.

 

[duluxe]

Thinking of another woman while having sex with wife

Vs

Thinking of another woman other than your wife during self masturbation

Are they the same in terms of moral culpability?

Both invoke the same mental process: appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Either @Dongyi or @Willamshakespear will be able to give in-depth answer, I can only give one sentence.

 

[duluxe]

ACS Pervert:

 

[Dongyi]

Both invoke the same mental process: appreciating the beauty of God's creation. Either @Dongyi or @Willamshakespear will be able to give in-depth answer, I can only give one sentence.

William is Ah Tiong.

 

[DaoMa]

William is Ah Tiong.

Really?

 

[Dongyi]

Really?

You have a strong enough command of English to know better.

 

[DaoMa]

You have a strong enough command of English to know better.

Today I come office, delegate all my work to subordinates. I don't feel depressed anymore.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Today I come office, delegate all my work to subordinates. I don't feel depressed anymore.

Wa got subordinates sia

 

[Dongyi]

Today I come office, delegate all my work to subordinates. I don't feel depressed anymore.

I'm not worried about your feeling depressed. I always believed it was temporary and that you're mature enough to work through these occasional periods of low mood.

 

[DaoMa]

I'm not worried about your feeling depressed. I always believed it was temporary and that you're mature enough to work through these occasional periods of low mood.

I can only blame myself for getting depressed. Inherently, I have a passive personality and always keep troubles and difficulties (whether at work or personal life) inside me and not expel these things by talking to people because I treasure my privacy too much. Then it will reach a boiling point, then have to reboot and restart the system.

 

[Dongyi]

I can only blame myself for getting depressed. Inherently, I have a passive personality and always keep troubles and difficulties (whether at work or personal life) inside me and not expel these things by talking to people because I treasure my privacy too much. Then it will reach a boiling point, then have to reboot and restart the system.

That alone isn't a reason to become so overwhelmed by depression that you want to end your life. There's more to it than you're aware of, but this isn't the appropriate forum to discuss your underlying psychological issues. This is why I diam diam.

祸兮福所倚 福兮祸所伏。 The source of your greatest happiness can also be the source of your greatest sorrow.​

 

[duluxe]

William is Ah Tiong.

So William S. is not anglo, but a tiong. Donyi is not tiong, but an anglo? Doesn't make sense!

 

[Dongyi]

So William S. is not anglo, but a tiong. Donyi is not tiong, but an anglo? Doesn't make sense!

It all makes much more sense once you understand when to use "which" versus "that," and "who" versus "whom."​