Chitchat Lao Cheebye Cynthia Koh Does No Regrets Not Being a Mummy

[True Follower]

Does she still get her protein nutrients from Edmund Chen?

Must ask Xiang Yun.

Why TKL did the same to his granddaughter people KPKB ?

 

[Shu]

 

[Balls2U]

Why dig up this old topic?

 

[syed putra]

I wouldn't think so. I am sure somebody dud. Mostly the married wealthy . And done overseas.

no men want to impregnate her ? how come?

 

[A Singaporean]

Just another way of saying no one wants to fuck her.

 

[laksaboy]

She's still at WorldVentures?

 

[Shu]

 

[Envious]

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Was v chio when younger (just like everyone). Now v meaty and got alot of wrinkles.

Money really can't buy everything.

 

[WangChuk]

‘I have no regrets’: Confinement actress Cynthia Koh on not being a mother​

Actress Cynthia Koh says the motherhood boat has long sailed and has accepted she will be child-free. ST PHOTO: HESTER TAN

Joanne Soh
UPDATED

15 OCT 2023, 6:02 PM SGT

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SINGAPORE – In Confinement, directed by Singaporean film-maker Kelvin Tong, actress Cynthia Koh plays Ah Qing, a nanny hired by Rebecca Lim’s character to look after her newborn baby.
In her own life, being child-free is a choice Koh has made, having accepted that the boat to motherhood has long sailed.
She shared many scenes with a baby in the psychological thriller and had to learn how to cradle, soothe, feed and burp the infant during pre-production “training”.

The film opens in cinemas on Thursday.
Over the course of her two-week shoot with the baby, Koh says she did not feel any maternal yearnings.
The thought of being a mother did cross her mind, the 49-year-old admits, but that was many years ago.


“I used to believe that childbirth is a responsibility for all women,” Koh says.

“Growing up, my plan was to start dating and perhaps settle down when I was around 27 years old.
“But when I got to that age, I realised that local men would have just embarked on their careers in their late 20s as they had to fulfil their national service. How can one start a family with empty pockets?”
She was also apprehensive of dating older men.

“What if they are controlling?” she asks, adding that time had flown by while trying to find Mr Right. “By then, it was too late to have kids already.”
She adds with a laugh: “That’s why I always say, women, please don’t plan too much.”
Koh, who has no godchildren, nieces or nephews, says adoption did cross her mind, but it was merely a fleeting thought.

Actress Cynthia Koh says the motherhood boat has long sailed and has accepted she will be child-free. ST PHOTO: HESTER TAN
When she was in her early 40s, her mother suggested she could try getting pregnant using donor sperm, which Koh laughed off.
“I’m past the nagging stage already,” the actress, who is single, says. “It is okay if you cannot be a parent.”
She keeps herself busy with work and trying new experiences to keep loneliness at bay.
Being on a film like Confinement is one such endeavour.

She had also appeared in the 2000 Hong Kong action film 2000 AD starring Aaron Kwok, though she called that a cameo.
While she has starred in many television series over her three-decade career, the veteran actress says working with Tong was an eye-opener.
“Being on a film set is very different. Work on a TV series is much faster paced as we must finish filming an episode within three to four days, and each episode has 28 to 30 scenes,” says Koh.
With Tong, they had time to develop each scene and pre-production workshops.
She adds that Tong, who wrote the script in English before translating it into Mandarin, met the actresses and worked on their lines to ensure they sounded natural.
Koh initially felt lost when they started filming. “There were times I felt like I was second-guessing myself, but Kelvin was very reassuring.”

Cynthia Koh as the mysterious nanny in Confinement, a psychological thriller directed by Singaporean film-maker Kelvin Tong. PHOTO: GOLDEN VILLAGE
They also had to shoot around the baby’s schedule.
“You just have to work with her timing,” says Koh, recalling how they had to wait for the baby to be awake or asleep, depending on what the scene called for.
She adds: “You really need to be patient with a child. Kelvin has kids, so he’s very understanding.”
Koh says that as she grew older, she also became more comfortable travelling on her own.
“Sometimes, my friends would join me on the holiday, or I’d go solo and join a local tour. I would just go with the flow and make plans along the way,” she says.
“My friends with children envy that I can pack up and go for a holiday whenever I want. I tell them they make their memories with their kids, while I create memories the way I want. It’s a very different ball game.”
She adds: “I have no regrets. I will choose my freedom over being tied down by children.”

Cynthia want babies anytime can find moi ... moi soompah will give her many babies and a happy family anytime she say "I do" ...

 

[congo9]

Was v chio when younger (just like everyone). Now v meaty and got alot of wrinkles.

Money really can't buy everything.

Woman need to take care of their

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

Woman need to take care of their

Alamak she sure got take care of herself la, but already in her 50s leh.

 

[birdie69]

Just another way of saying no one wants to fuck her.

I thought Ah Chye did it many times before Ah Yun found out

 

[True Believer]

Her neh-nehs are nowhere to be seen. Where did they go?

 

[k1976]

I thought Ah Chye did it many times before Ah Yun found out

Still Child Free?

 

[laksaboy]

Cynthia want babies anytime can find moi ... moi soompah will give her many babies and a happy family anytime she say "I do" ...

Her babymaking factory closed shop already, she was born in 1974, even primary school level maths can calculate the reason why.

 

[Scrooball (clone)]

When there’s a cheebye, there’s a way. Never say never.

1. Mangayamma Yaramati​

Age at Time of Baby’s Birth: 74 years
Date of Baby’s Birth: September 5, 2019
Country of Origin: Andhra Pradesh, India

photo source: CBS News

Although Daljinder Kaur held the record for several years, Mangayamma Yaramati became the oldest woman in the world to ever give birth in September 2019 at the age of 74. Like many of the older mothers on this list, Yaramati was only able to have children (she delivered twins) due to extensive IVF treatments.

Since Yaramati has already gone through menopause, she and her 82-year-old husband, Sitarama Rajarao, used a donor egg fertilized with Rajarao’s sperm and implanted it into Yaramati. Fortunately, Yaramati’s pregnancy went smoothly and there were no complications.

 

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but still can steal eat ok lah

 

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'I had twins at 73 - then my husband died' says devastated 'world's oldest mum'​

The 'world's oldest mum' Yerramatti Mangayamma gave birth to twin girls at 73 before husband Raja died 12 months later, leaving her a single mother who has been forced to make plans for her own death​

10:51, 15 Mar 2021Updated 10:53, 15 Mar 2021

'World's oldest mum' Yerramatti Mangayamma gave birth to twins at 73
The 'world's oldest mum' hit the headlines after giving birth to twins aged 73 in 2019.

But now Yerramatti Mangayamma is facing the rest of her days as a single mum after husband Raja, 84, died of a heart attack, leaving behind his wife and two 12-month-old daughters Rama Tulasi and Uma Tulasi.

"It makes me very emotional when I think of him gone,’ said Yerrametti, now 75, from Andhra Pradesh, Southern India.

"He only had 12 months with his girls, but at least he tasted the joy of fatherhood before he died."

Throughout the early years of their marriage, Yerramatti and Raja tried everything they could to conceive, consulting a slew of specialists and experimenting with different medications, but nothing worked.

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Then their battle came to a heartbreaking end when Yerramatti entered early menopause at 40.

"It was an awful time," explained Yerramatti, who married farmer Raja in an arranged marriage in 1962.

"It felt like a door was shutting. We considered adoption, but in the end we didn’t go through with it."

Adding to her pain, Yerramatti told how neighbours dubbed her ‘the childless lady’ and she would often catch relatives gossiping behind her back.

Yerramatti's husband died last October aged 84, leaving her a single mother

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The sense of grief and loss never her left her. Then, in the summer of 2018, when Yerramatti was 72, she heard that a woman in her 30s in her village had given birth to a baby after having IVF.

"I’d never heard of it and was desperate to find out more," she said. "Knowing how much I’d wanted a child, she passed on the details of the clinic. I knew IVF would be tough, but I wanted to try."

Yerramatti contacted Dr Umashankar Sanakkayala, from Ahalya Nursing Home, in in Guntur, Andhra Pradesh, Southern India. And in November 2018 they met for the first time.

She continued: "The doctor carried out some tests to check my health and when they came back positive, he agreed to help me. I wept with joy.

Yerramatti Mangayamma thought her dreams of becoming a mother were long gone
"My pregnancy journey had been so negative up until this point, but receiving even the slightest positivity was overwhelming."

Yerramatti and Raja paid 65,000 Indian rupees, (£660) from their savings for their first cycle of treatment. And as Yerramatti wasn’t producing any eggs, a donor egg was used and fertilised with Raja’s sperm.

Then in January 2019 they got the news they thought would never come - Dr Umashankar Sanakkayala confirmed Yerramatti had conceived, and after three months she found out she was having twins.

Rama Tulasi and Uma Tulasi were born by c-section on September 5, 2019, at Ahalya Nursing Home, and weighed just under 2kg each.

Yerramatti said: "Holding them for the first time was beautiful. We were kept in hospital for a couple of weeks so doctors could make sure the three of us were healthy, but thankfully we were then allowed home.

Yerramatti has made plans for the care of her daughters in the event of her own passing(Image: Cover Asia Press / Narasimhan Venu)
"At first it was hard. The doctor told me not to breastfeed, as it would put pressure on my body, so I used milk banks. The sleepless nights were relentless, but I found meditation helped."

Dr Umashankar Sanakkayala, 46, from Ahalya Nursing Home, has made it his life's work to provide those in need with access to IVF.

He said: "When I first opened my clinic I wanted to make IVF affordable for everyone, not just the rich. I wanted to help everyone have a family because in India, family is everything. And if people can’t afford it then we arrange financial help."

However, he initially had no idea how old Yerramatti before he treated her.

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Dr Umashankar Sanakkayala thought Yerramatti was in her 50s
"I actually thought Yerramatti was in her 50s because many of the older generation in India don’t have birth certificates," Dr Umashankar Sanakkayala explained.

"I only found out she was 73 when she was eight months pregnant and I was totally shocked. But she was very healthy.

"I only help women who pass their medical tests and she did. Thankfully she had a straight forward pregnancy and the birth was a magical moment. It was a very special day for us here when the twins were born."

Sadly, Raja's much yearned-for taste of fatherhood was to be short-lived, and he died last October aged 84.

Now forced to thinkabout her own death, Yerramatti has appointed a family member to take over the care of the girls when her time comes.

But for now, her overwhelming love for the children she thought she would never has is helping her get through her grief.

She said: "It’s tough without him, but my family and friends are close by, and I have savings to help me.

"I’m determined to be here to see my girls grow up, but I’ve chosen a family friend to raise them if anything happens to me.

"I’m just so thrilled I got to be a mum after all the years I spent heartbroken without children."