First of all, let’s be honest: attractiveness is relative. It’s not something you can declare for yourself or lock in through sheer confidence. It ultimately depends on how other people see you. On that point,
@sbfuncle is right. And it’s not just about having a symmetrical face or a great body. What one person finds irresistible, another might barely notice. What feels exciting at twenty might seem unimportant at forty. As we grow, what we want—and what we value—changes.
When we’re young, we’re often drawn to whoever stands out. In college, that’s usually the athlete—the guy in the spotlight, getting cheers and attention—while the serious student fades into the background. But life has a way of reshuffling priorities. Once people enter the workforce and face real-world competition and pressure, their preferences can shift. Influence starts to matter. Achievement matters. Stability, ambition, and the ability to provide comfort and security become more attractive. The guy who once impressed everyone on the basketball court may not outshine the man who runs a company. And like it or not, money becomes part of the picture. In many societies, money is treated as proof of success. Fair or not, people without it are often judged more harshly.
So no, you don’t need movie-star looks like John Lone to be considered attractive. Attraction depends on what the other person is looking for at that point in their life. If a woman currently values the lifestyle symbolized by a Hermès bag or a Cartier watch, then a man who can afford those things may seem appealing to her.
But someone else—especially a woman whose career requires her to move comfortably in high society—might care less about flashy displays and more about substance. She may value intelligence, cultural awareness, and the ability to hold a thoughtful conversation. After all, anyone can strap on an A. Lange & Söhne watch. Not everyone can speak fluent German. When real conversations start, your watch can’t talk for you. In those settings, what really counts isn’t what you wear, but who you are. It’s not the hardware—it’s the software: your mind, your communication skills, and your character.
