Are there any Samsters who prefer to be alone than with others?

[eatshitndie]

My problem is that after more than 20 years of child raising, the gulf between my Mrs and me has widened so much that we have become distant from one another.

can role play. you be the tenant and she be the landlady. sparks will fly.

 

[Vlad Tepes]

Your notions of a meaning relationship doesn't exist in Singapore. Here in SG, is money, money. After years of social conditioning, anybody with a hint/bone of romance and humanity will become a robot in SG. Aspirations and Reality are two different things. That's why SG women come across ang moh, their vagina will automatically become wet. They know these Ang Mohs will give them not only material needs but better quality of life as well. Who the fuck wants to squeeze into crowded public transport day in, day out and work OT like till there's no tomorrow?

Even when it comes to friendships, as a man. Tell me something, your regular la kopi willing to help you when you become disabled or bankrupt? They will drop you like a hot potato when you have a crisis. I learnt this the hard way. Keeping a dog is better.

 

[uniboi]

I don't mind sharing that a typical weekend at my home involves my Mrs and me working on our laptops or watching TV when we are not running errands like going to the wet market or grocery shopping. My 3 adult children will be glued to their devices and only speak to us for brief moments at the dining table. Everyone appears to be doing things in isolation at home.

That is the typical life of a Sg family.

 

[sbfuncle]

It is often said that our personality is largely shaped by the pre-school years. If that is true, growing up alone may have a significant impact on our social preferences. Before I went to kindergarten, I spent most of my time alone, watching TV and enjoying my own company. My parents and older brother were often busy with work and school, so I had a lot of time alone. I liked being able to do whatever I wanted without having to share my toys or TV time with anyone. Starting school was a major adjustment. I dreaded the idea of interacting with others and have never really gotten used to it. Even as an adult, I prefer solitude. While I can be social, it always feels like a compromise. Being alone seems so natural. I cannot say for sure if everyone who grew up alone feels the same way. Perhaps those who were constantly surrounded by others might find solitude uncomfortable. For me, being alone has been a source of comfort and independence. That is why I prefer to WFH instead of interacting with co-workers in the office, and cherish those 2 days per week when I am more productive at home or at my town club.

There are more advantages of being alone.
You need not have to make prior appointments to meet up anyone or postpone or reschedule it when you doesn't feel like going out at that time , it is free & easy, you can choose to go out anytime as you wish without the need to be obliged to anything.
I'm beginning to discover more and more advantages of being alone.

 

[True Believer]

Your notions of a meaning relationship doesn't exist in Singapore. Here in SG, is money, money. After years of social conditioning, anybody with a hint/bone of romance and humanity will become a robot in SG. Aspirations and Reality are two different things. That's why SG women come across ang moh, their vagina will automatically become wet. They know these Ang Mohs will give them not only material needs but better quality of life as well. Who the fuck wants to squeeze into crowded public transport day in, day out and work OT like till there's no tomorrow? Even when it comes to friendships, as a man. Tell me something, your regular la kopi willing to help you when you become disabled or bankrupt? They will drop you like a hot potato when you have a crisis. I learnt this the hard way. Keeping a dog is better.

SPGs have found to their cost that most Caucasians working in SG these days are not on special expat terms that include housing and car. Many of these men will also divorce these local women when a younger and prettier SPG appears. I have a small circle of friends, but the only people I can truly rely on are my wife and adult children.

 

[True Believer]

There are more advantages of being alone. You need not have to make prior appointments to meet up anyone or postpone or reschedule it when you doesn't feel like going out at that time , it is free & easy, you can choose to go out anytime as you wish without the need to be obliged to anything. I'm beginning to discover more and more advantages of being alone.

I know a few former classmates from JC and NUS who remain single or are dealing with the loss of a spouse. They generally feel that life will be less lonely/more meaningful with a significant other half; the grass always seems greener on the other side.

 

[laksaboy]

Homos are definitely more social creatures.

 

[True Believer]

can role play. you be the tenant and she be the landlady. sparks will fly.

You have an active imagination. LOL!

 

[True Believer]

hmmm try dancing. u get to dance with others as well so its more refreshing.

Looking back, we have stopped almost all the activities we used to enjoy together during our NUS days.
That is sad indeed. No wonder older couples reminisce about "the good old days".

 

[uniboi]

Life

SPGs have found to their cost that most Caucasians working in SG these days are not on special expat terms that include housing and car. Many of these men will also divorce these local women when a younger and prettier SPG appears. I have a small circle of friends, but the only people I can truly rely on are my wife and adult children.

Life after 50s.

 

[uniboi]

Looking back, we have stopped almost all the activities we used to enjoy together during our NUS days.
That is sad indeed. No wonder older couples reminisce about "the good old days".

There are plenty of dancing groups outside for all ages. Can try. How long ago was your NUS days? Time to look for new friends

 

[True Believer]

There are plenty of dancing groups outside for all ages. Can try. How long ago was your NUS days? Time to look for new friends

I don't hang out much with colleagues or friends after work since I usually just want to return home to rest and spend time with my family.
My Mrs and I were undergrads 30 years ago.

 

[True Believer]

Life after 50s.

It must be even lonelier for singles w/o a spouse and children to go home to.

 

[uniboi]

It must be even lonelier for singles w/o a spouse and children to go home to.

Think they free and happy

 

[True Believer]

Think they free and happy

Not according to the singles and widows/widowers whom I meet during my JC and NUS class reunions.
Most expressed some form of loneliness and feeling of being incomplete w/o a spouse and children.

 

[glockman]

It's ok to be alone. Through the ups and downs of life, we have no one but ourselves in the end.