Last night, I went supper a senior cyclist friend. Then after finishing our prata, while sipping teh tarik, he said in mandarin to me...

[Sialoquent]

"男人一生最大的悲哀, 不是没钱, 也不是生病, 更不是变老了, 而是在年轻的时候, 娶错了老婆."

He's divorced at 56. Half of his assets and CPF tio 'chiongkong' by his ex wife. No kids. Wife was all along a housewife looking after his elderly parents. Then when the parents gone, she changed also.

I asked him why 'chiongkong' so much. He said pay lump sum maintenence better than periodic maintenence. Lesser problem in future.

Marriage is scary... he never steal eat outside and good temperament some more...

 

[Sialoquent]

Now I think think what he went through, maybe on hindsight, he shouldn't have gotten married. Got sex urge, visit prostitutes to fulfill. Then just hire a maid to take care of his elderly parents. At least wouldn't end up half assets and half CPF tio 'chiongkong'.

 

[Vlad Tepes]

Now I think think what he went through, maybe on hindsight, he shouldn't have gotten married. Got sex urge, visit prostitutes to fulfill. Then just hire a maid to take care of his elderly parents. At least wouldn't end up half assets and half CPF tio 'chiongkong'.

It's been proven in the west for decades, no fault divorce is extremely detrimental to a man. Women do not take into account all the good things a man has done for them. They do things based on "feels". He should be thankful they don't have children. Else, he be paying child support through his nose, GG in this case.

 

[NanoSpeed]

"男人一生最大的悲哀, 不是没钱, 也不是生病, 更不是变老了, 而是在年轻的时候, 娶错了老婆."

He's divorced at 56. Half of his assets and CPF tio 'chiongkong' by his ex wife. No kids. Wife was all along a housewife looking after his elderly parents. Then when the parents gone, she changed also.

I asked him why 'chiongkong' so much. He said pay lump sum maintenence better than periodic maintenence. Lesser problem in future.

Marriage is scary... he never steal eat outside and good temperament some more...

Your friend speaks Mandarin ... that means low SES, confirmed.

So he is not happy that (1) the wife divorced him or (2) the size of the maintenance?

 

[NanoSpeed]

Now I think think what he went through, maybe on hindsight, he shouldn't have gotten married. Got sex urge, visit prostitutes to fulfill. Then just hire a maid to take care of his elderly parents. At least wouldn't end up half assets and half CPF tio 'chiongkong'.

If you are considering buying a Mercedes Benz (or any brand), do you go to Cycle & Carriage showroom to view a new Benz ? Or you go to the Police Impound Lot where accident vehicles are kept ? ​

 

[NanoSpeed]

"男人一生最大的悲哀, 不是没钱, 也不是生病, 更不是变老了, 而是在年轻的时候, 娶错了老婆."

Everything is relative. You should impart some wisdom to your friend, and not get influenced by him instead.

假如他沒錢，就沒有女人願意嫁給他．
假如他生病，就沒有女人願意嫁給他．
假如他變老，就沒有女人願意嫁給他．

以上他都不必擔心娶錯老婆，因為沒有女人要嫁給他．

假如他結了婚之後沒錢，家裡經濟危機，老婆會嫌棄他跟他離婚．
假如他結了婚之後生病，生病就得花錢，老婆會嫌棄他跟他離婚．
假如他結了婚之後變老，床上不能夠舉，老婆會嫌棄他跟他離婚．

以上無論他娶哪個女人，女人就是女人，都會嫌棄他．

 

[syed putra]

"男人一生最大的悲哀, 不是没钱, 也不是生病, 更不是变老了, 而是在年轻的时候, 娶错了老婆."

He's divorced at 56. Half of his assets and CPF tio 'chiongkong' by his ex wife. No kids. Wife was all along a housewife looking after his elderly parents. Then when the parents gone, she changed also.

I asked him why 'chiongkong' so much. He said pay lump sum maintenence better than periodic maintenence. Lesser problem in future.

Marriage is scary... he never steal eat outside and good temperament some more...

I dont see any problem.
His wife served his parents, not her parents.
After decades of servitude, she eventually got her pay. Now she is free to travel and do her thing.
Friend also free to do his thing.
56 is still Young in this day and age.

 

[NanoSpeed]

Marriage is scary... he never steal eat outside and good temperament some more...

He is 56. According to a known precedent called @sbfuncle he will have been half-flaccid for a long time. And he would be lucky if @ 56 he was not 3/4 flaccid.

All in all, if he is flaccid he will not be able to satisfy her wife in bed. He must speak to himself and find out what about women that will excite him. In the case of @sbfuncle a nice butt will turn half flaccid into fully turgid. So your friend must discover his own "niche" in bed. ​

 

[syed putra]

He is 56. According to a known precedent called @sbfuncle he will have been half-flaccid for a long time. And he would be lucky if @ 56 he was not 3/4 flaccid.

All in all, if he is flaccid he will not be able to satisfy her wife in bed. He must speak to himself and find out what about women that will excite him. In the case of @sbfuncle a nice butt will turn half flaccid into fully turgid. So your friend must discover his own "niche" in bed. ​

Young voluptuous girl can turn any flaccids into rigids. Its a natural phenomena.

 

[Sialoquent]

Your friend speaks Mandarin ... that means low SES, confirmed.

So he is not happy that (1) the wife divorced him or (2) the size of the maintenance?

No idea. But he is certainly very 沉默 nowadays and when he opens his mouth, he is like dishing out his pearls of wisdom of aging...

 

[NanoSpeed]

No idea. But he is certainly very 沉默 nowadays and when he opens his mouth, he is like dishing out his pearls of wisdom of aging...

Why you got 老餅 friend one ?

 

[jsctan]

Just make one feels like need to blame someone except ownself.

 

[Vlad Tepes]

Your friend speaks Mandarin ... that means low SES, confirmed.

So he is not happy that (1) the wife divorced him or (2) the size of the maintenance?

You cannot be so blunt. You should say “你的朋友有文化”. Rise of China, remember? tee hee hee

 

[Sialoquent]

Why you got 老餅 friend one ?

cycling friend

 

[True Believer]

Young voluptuous girl can turn any flaccids into rigids. Its a natural phenomena.

The spirit may be willing, but the flesh may be too weak to follow through with the act.

 

[syed putra]

The spirit may be willing, but the flesh may be too weak to follow through with the act.
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I am sure with the right financial. Incentive, this can be achieved.

 

[True Believer]

I am sure with the right financial. Incentive, this can be achieved.

I was referring to the man's spirit of lust raging, but the flesh of his penis may not be able to rise to the occasion.

 

[sbfuncle]

"男人一生最大的悲哀, 不是没钱, 也不是生病, 更不是变老了, 而是在年轻的时候, 娶错了老婆."

He's divorced at 56. Half of his assets and CPF tio 'chiongkong' by his ex wife. No kids. Wife was all along a housewife looking after his elderly parents. Then when the parents gone, she changed also.

I asked him why 'chiongkong' so much. He said pay lump sum maintenence better than periodic maintenence. Lesser problem in future.

Marriage is scary... he never steal eat outside and good temperament some more...

Why cyclist enthusiasts also can lament about such issues?
I thought they are all positivity people.
Only losers like my ex colleague will lament and go coffee shop drink to his sorrows about his wifey.