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chope! bayi simi sek!
Zihau should give her two. Maybe she not satisfied with merely just one.
Her cheebye can tell in a lot more.
Ccb losers are all alike with ccb mouth !
Nobody ordered your cheebye tonight?
You can open one company call deliverhai. People can check your schedule and book your chow hai.
If all parents did the right thing and abort a retarded foetus, the chinese people will disappear from the face of the earth.
Hahahaha...u mean m&ds right?
http://www.asiaone.com/health/man-77-5-down-syndrome-children-cant-afford-retire
Man, 77, with 5 Down syndrome children can't afford to retire
THE NEW PAPER
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SINGAPORE - His daughter's eyes lit up and she clapped her hands as he placed colourful kueh on her plate during teatime.
Mr Zakaria Abdul had returned home with an assortment of treats for his five children after knocking off from work.
But Ms Shahidah Zakaria is no child, although she is the youngest of five children. She's 44 years old and she has Down syndrome.
Her brothers, who are aged from 46 to 55, were also born with the genetic disorder.
A gynaecologist said that since all five children have Down syndrome, it could be the inherited form of the disorder, which is more rare.
Mr Zakaria, 77, has been caring for his children with the help of his neighbours, after his wife, a homemaker, died in 2000 from complications due to diabetes. She was 69.
The neighbours - Mr Rugiman Supaat, 59, and his wife, Madam Tuminah Salim, 60, and Mr Aziz Ali, 60 - visit Mr Zakaria's three-room flat in Tampines every weekday morning.
They help to clean the flat and feed the children. This has been the arrangement for more than 10years, but the neighbours are now worried about the future of the five children.
Mr Zakaria suffered a heart attack last month, his third in two years. But he is still holding a job, earning about $2,000 a month as a freelance surveyor. He gets about two assignments a week.
He moved from another block four years ago to be closer to Mr Rugiman and Mr Aziz.
When The New Paper met Mr Zakaria in his flat last Thursday, a day after he was discharged from a four-day stay at Changi General Hospital, he moved slowly and his hands shook frequently.
He said his hands have been like this since he had a hernia operation last year.
Mr Zakaria said he is financially stable. The flat is fully paid for and he has no problem paying the bills as long as he's working.
He said in a soft voice: "I cannot afford to retire. I have to continue to work to provide for my children.
"But now I am worried, I am old, how long more do I have? What will happen to my children if I kick the bucket?"
Helpful neighbours
The family home is spartan but clean, thanks to their helpful neighbours.
"The five children have their own little quirks and personalities," said Mr Rugiman, who is known as "An" to them. His wife, Madam Tuminah, is known as "Na".
"They are fans of Ramli Sarip (a Singaporean singer) and P. Ramlee (a famous Malaysian actor). They will sing along, though they are really just making sounds."
All five siblings have trouble expressing themselves with words. So they communicate with sign language and a few Malay words they know.
"Sometimes, they will dance along too. It's a joy to watch them," Mr Rugiman said with a hearty laugh.
When TNP visited the flat with Mr Rugiman on two afternoons, Ms Shahidah and two brothers, Mr Shariff, 52, and Mr Akbar, 51, greeted us enthusiastically, offering handshakes and cold drinks.
Time for professional help?
Time for professional help?
They hugged and kissed Mr Rugiman, despite just seeing him a few hours earlier when he brought them lunch his wife had cooked.
But on one afternoon, it was not all smiles and laughter. The eldest son, Mr Hassan, 55, walked in and out of the bathroom with just a towel on, shouting incoherently.
The fourth son, Mr Rijal, 47, was sulking because he also wanted to use the toilet.
Mr Rugiman thinks that it may be time for Mr Zakaria to get professional help for his children.
"Two of them, the eldest and the fourth, take turns to use the toilet, and they spend hours inside each time. I don't know what they are doing inside," he said.
"The eldest son and the daughter are also problematic. When their father was in the hospital, they kept screaming at night, disturbing the neighbours."
Mr Shariff, Mr Akbar and Mr Rijal attended a Movement for the Intellectually Disabled school, but stopped after it was moved from Tampines to Margaret Drive in the late 1980s.
Responding to TNP's queries, a Ministry of Community Development, Youth and Sports (MCYS) spokesman said that Mr Zakaria and his family had been referred to MCYS for assistance in January 2010 and July last year.
"Mr Zakaria had indicated to our staff he was being supported by his family and was able to manage," the spokesman said.
"Nevertheless, he was linked up with community support services and informed of help resources.'
The spokesman added: "NE CDC (North East Community Development Council), together with Tampines West grassroots and SBL (Singapore Buddhist Lodge) Vision Family Service Centre had visited MrZakaria on Monday and would be working with MCYS and relevant agencies to admit the mentally disabled children into homes."
Will
Mr Zakaria wrote a will six years ago, appointing Mr Aziz as executor of his estate.
"I thank God for them. I'm really grateful for their help. But they are getting old too, " he said. The Rugimans, who have three children and six grandchildren, are retired, and Mr Aziz, a bachelor, is able to visit the family in the morning as he works the night shift.
Mr Rugiman said: "I help them because I feel great sympathy towards them. Other people help by giving money. But I help by giving them my heart."
During TNP's second visit, Mr Zakaria and his friends were discussing plans for the children should anything happen to him.
Asked if he ever felt tired of taking care of the five children, the soft-spoken man shook his head and said: "No."
Was there any moment when he felt like giving up? Mr Zakaria shook his head again.
"Honestly, no," he said quietly. "They are all my children. Because of me, they came to this world."
It is hard to imagine the children's lives without him. Mr Zakaria said: "Before I leave the flat every day, Shahidah will remind me to buy her snacks. And she will also tell me, 'Please come back.'"
For more than 50 years, he has always returned home. He's worried that he might not be able to keep this promise for much longer.
Older mum, higher risk
DOWN syndrome is a genetic condition which occurs universally across race and gender in about one in 800 births, according to the Down Syndrome Association of Singapore (DSA).
Gynaecologist Christopher Ng said the most common cause of Down syndrome is related to the mother's age - the older the mother, the higher the risk.
"It is due to an error during cell division which results in an extra 21st chromosome that leads to Down syndrome," he said.
"But in this case, since all five children have Down syndrome, it could be the inherited form of Down syndrome, which is rarer.
Defective gene
"Although a person with the defective gene may appear physically normal, he or she has a greater risk of producing a child with an extra 21st chromosome."
The DSA said that early and accurate diagnosis with appropriate treatment and follow-up allows people with Down syndrome to live a healthy and longer life in the same manner as it would allow people without it.
The DSA offers services for both adults and children.
The Adult Enhancement Programme is targeted at persons with intellectual disabilities who have graduated from special schools at the age of 18.
It aims to help them become more independent and productive in life.
The Mental Capacity Act
Parents of intellectually disabled children can appoint caregivers to take over the role of looking after the children if the parents die or become mentally incapacitated.
These caregivers, to be known as "deputies", will have to be vetted by the court, under the Mental Capacity Act.
The Act, which took effect on March 1, 2010, aims to give Singaporeans a say over who will look after them if they lose their mind to dementia, illnesses oraccidents.
In both cases, the guardians will be allowed to make decisions concerning the day-to-day welfare, medical, money and property matters of their charges.
But guardians will be barred from taking decisions such as making or revoking a Central Provident Fund nomination, or an Advanced Medical Directive.
From April 1 last year to March 31 this year, there were 225 court orders appointing 344 deputies. Eleven per cent of these cases involved developmental psychiatric disorders.
https://www.channelnewsasia.com/new...m-on-down-syndrome-son-special-needs-10607332
Embracing the experience: MP Rahayu Mahzam on parenting a son with Down Syndrome
Member of Parliament Rahayu Mahzam recently revealed in Parliament that her 16-month-old son, Ayden, has Down Syndrome. She speaks to Channel NewsAsia on the ups and downs of being a mother, the support she’s found and her future plans on being a voice for the special needs community.
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MP Rahayu Mahzam with her son, Ayden, in a photo taken in June 2018. (Photo courtesy of Rahayu Mahzam)
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By Lianne Chia @LianneChiaCNA
11 Aug 2018 06:17AM (Updated: 14 Aug 2018 11:54AM)
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SINGAPORE: Juggling work and motherhood, says Rahayu Mahzam, is one of the biggest challenges she faces. But it is clear that the Member of Parliament for Jurong GRC, who is a lawyer, also enjoys her new role as a mother to her 16-month-old son, Ayden.
As she cheerfully and animatedly recounts anecdotes of how she juggles her work commitments with her duties as a mother, she breaks into peals of laughter periodically as she recalls amusing stories.
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There was once, she said, she had to leave for work early, and left Ayden, who is her only child, with her sister-in-law.
“So he takes a while to warm up, and he woke up to a stranger. And she sent me a picture of him, and the whole time, he was looking at her like that,” she recounted, demonstrating a suspicious, side-eyed look. “She bathed him, fed him, gave him his milk, and the whole time, he was looking at her like that.”
“When I came home, I was rewarded with a smack on my face,” she added, laughing.
She is quick to emphasise that the issues she faces as a working mother are common to many other parents. But her journey is slightly different: It is one which involves perhaps a little more fear and worry, and a host of additional medical appointments.
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Because Ayden, she revealed in an impassioned speech in Parliament last month, has Down Syndrome.
GOING PUBLIC
Mdm Rahayu had never hidden Ayden’s condition from friends and family.
But her speech, in which she spoke frankly about her personal experiences as a mother of a child with special needs and called for more to be done in the area of inclusive education, was the first time, she said, she was revealing Ayden’s condition on “such a public platform”.
“I wanted to talk about the issue because I was aware of some of the things that other parents were facing, but it wasn’t just about me,” she said. “And also, I was very conscious about labelling him, because he’s so young, and doesn’t have a say in how he’s put up.
"People might also see him a certain way after that.”
But despite her concerns, she went ahead with the speech, as she felt the points she was making were important, and would resonate with many other parents of children with special needs. Some, she said, reached out to her after she made the speech.
“The stories, feelings and emotions ... I just wanted to send that message. And generally people appreciated that I captured that emotion.”
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MP Rahayu Mahzam and her son Ayden in a photo from Oct 2017. (Photo courtesy of Rahayu Mahzam)
TERMINATION WAS NEVER AN OPTION
Doctors first raised the possibility that Ayden had Down Syndrome when Mdm Rahayu was about five months’ pregnant. The genetic condition, which is caused by the presence of an extra chromosome, can result in developmental delays.
“It was very scary, because it wasn’t just Down Syndrome,” she explained. “There was a whole range of other issues, and also a possibility that the child may not survive pregnancy and childbirth.
“And when I asked the doctors if there was anything I could do about it, or if there is any treatment for the condition, they said no, but there’s an option for termination."
But termination, she stressed, had never crossed her mind.
“I’ve waited so long for a child, and I’ve grown up valuing life and knowing there’s always a reason why things happen ... to me, it was just a challenge that I had to overcome,” she said.
She had spoken in a previous interview about how she and her husband were seeking treatment to conceive. And she added that having gone through a previous pregnancy which ended in a miscarriage made her even more cautious.
“I didn’t want to dwell on it too much, but that kind of added a layer of fear,” she said. “But it was that uncertainty and concern about not knowing, and not being able to see the child, and worrying that the child may not survive the pregnancy.
“I didn’t even buy baby things until much later, because I wasn’t even sure that the baby would grow,” she added.
Dealing with her own emotions was one thing, and she recalled that picking herself up and simply getting busy “without thinking so much about it” helped her work out her pain. But dealing with the emotions of her family members and loved ones was, she said, a whole different issue altogether.
“I needed to tell them so they could prepare themselves mentally, but I couldn’t handle their reactions,” she said, recounting a particular conversation she had with her mother.
“It was quite difficult when I was trying to tell her ... okay, don’t get so excited because something might happen and I want you to be okay with it,” she said. “But at the same time, you’ve just got to keep praying and hope for the best.”
But ultimately, she is grateful for the support she got from her family members, who rallied around her and helped her out in ways big and small.
“My mum would do little things on a daily basis like cooking for me, buying me maternity pants and new clothes, and my sister also bought me a top so I could look decent on National Day,” she said.
“So it’s all these regular family things that may not matter so much, but it helps, because you’re just busy trying to get on with the days of your life.”
“I COULDN’T REALLY CELEBRATE BECAUSE HE WASN’T THERE”
She remembers it was a “sad feeling” when Ayden was born, because she could not be with him.
“The first day, I only saw him for a bit before they took him away to do tests,” she explained.
“When people were visiting, they would ask me where the baby was, and because he was in the special care nursery, nobody got to see him.
“I couldn’t really celebrate because he wasn’t there. So I focused on just getting better, so that I could walk and get out of bed and see him.”
She recalled an incident when she burst into tears upon receiving news that Ayden was to be moved to the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU).
“When I was walking to the NICU, I just burst,” she said. “I was crying and crying and I think I must have scared off other parents.”
“The nurses all kind of panicked, and brought me to a room, and they brought out all my doctors who were very kind and explained everything to me,” she said. “Thankfully, it was just that it didn't look like he was breathing so well, so they had to bring him to NICU because the equipment was there.”
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The first photo of Ayden released by MP Rahayu Mahzam. (Photo: Rahayu Mahzam/ Facebook)
FINDING SUPPORT FROM FAMILY, SPECIAL NEEDS COMMUNITY
It was about three weeks before Ayden could be brought home from the hospital. But there was another part of the challenge: The constant medical appointments Ayden had to go for.
Quipping that she was at KK Women’s and Children’s Hospital so often that she should get a “club membership”, Mdm Rahayu recalled being there almost “every other week”.
“It was so physically tiring, and there was work too,” she said, explaining that she started work again “fairly early”. She also started on her MP duties again, with Meet-the-People sessions coming in after a month, and market visits after two.
Things have gotten less hectic now, as Ayden’s schedule has settled into “some sort of regularity”. But she remains grateful for the family support that has continued even after she gave birth.
She considers herself fortunate to have a network of family members she can call on to help take care of Ayden when she and her husband have to work.
“Everyone was very zen about it,” she said. “I used to be worried before, but now I’m a bit more zen about it too, because I know that there are people who are just there for me.”
Support was also found from the special needs community.
It started small, from chatting with parents at Ayden’s sessions at the Down Syndrome Association, and she is now part of two informal WhatsApp groups for parents of children with Down Syndrome, which she says is a “repository of things”.
“Sometimes, I’m hearing stories from mothers, and commiserating, and other times, it’s practical advice, like what to do when a child has constipation, or how to find a pre-school that accepts my child,” she said. “It’s beeping constantly, but it’s really useful”.
Being plugged into the group – and the community – also came in useful when researching her speech in Parliament, as she was able to tap on the networks to meet different groups of parents to hear their stories and understand their concerns.
But she stressed that while her speech was a good starting point to raise awareness for the community, she is well aware that she has not “fully captured everything”.
“The spectrum is very diverse, and there are different levels of support for different groups and families,” she said. “But at least there’s the awareness now. So I need to keep track and follow through with some of the things I have pushed.”
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Ayden's first National Day on Aug 9, 2017. (Photo courtesy of Rahayu Mahzam)
ON ADVOCATING FOR THE SPECIAL NEEDS COMMUNITY
Mdm Rahayu recognises that her role as a Member of Parliament has placed her in a unique position to be a voice for issues close to her heart. Such as, for example, the special needs community.
But she is quick to brush aside comparisons to her fellow MP Denise Phua, who is well-known for being an advocate for the community.
“I definitely think I can help, but I cannot fill her shoes,” she said. “She is a legend in her own right, and she’s been around for years.”
“But clearly, I am already putting my hand up for things related to this sector, because I can appreciate it and I already have a conduit of feedback I can convey. So I guess that’s part of it.”
The title of advocate for the special needs community is, she added, a “big title that (she) feels too small to accept.”
“It’s not that I’m starting anything new, it’s more like helping to push things to a new level,” she said.
She added that there are also other issues she is already advocating for as an MP, such as multiracial harmony, families, youths, as well as the Malay language. “It’s not like I’m going to throw these away just because I have a new cause,” she said.
But she stressed that inclusive education – and a compassionate society – remains something that is close to her heart, and something she will continue to speak out about.
“We’re at a stage where we’ve kind of met Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, and we need to layer that with the soft aspects,” she said. “By being inclusive and creating awareness, then the community becomes more conscious.”
“Look at how we did it with multiracialism,” she explained. “Where it is not an issue that your friend is from a different racial background.
“Same thing for people with special needs ... where you really normalise it so you don’t see them because of their disability, but as someone who is part of your community.”
Today, despite the initial road bumps on her journey, it is clear that Mdm Rahayu is embracing the experience of being a mother.
"Of course I worry, but I’m embracing it," she said. "I feel very fortunate and privileged to be given this honour to take care of him."
“We’re doing our best to make sure Ayden is up to speed,” she added. “But I really hope people won’t make fun of him, dismiss him or take advantage of him.
“I hope the world will be a better place by the time he grows up.”
Read more at https://www.channelnewsasia.com/new...m-on-down-syndrome-son-special-needs-10607332
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Which include providing sexual needs for their MPs (David Ong & Michael Palmer)
He should have thought about this 27 years ago when she was born. Most autistic kids go on to be a lifelong burden. The parent is better off rearing a dog or cat.
Your RC and the government talk only lah. What help?
Address the root cause.
Address the root cause.
We provide free groceries and counselling services to poor people.
PAP has dealt with the root causes of poverty in Singapore. That's why most sinkies are doing well. It is impossible to eradicate poverty entirely. Even in places like New York and San Francisco, there are homeless people.
Well said...ang mor land is fuck up.
the woman's arms are thicker than my thigh.
Actually I don't understand these ang mors. Look at her daughter. Scary too. If they were good looking. They could have been high class pros n be millionaires by nowthe woman's arms are thicker than my thigh.
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knn you bit-chia john tan lobang...haha
well done
i personally have a RC friend...i asked him why he bothers to join RC
his reply was he can benefit a lot personally,,,like apply hdb flats gets the best units....can flirt around with female members
but of course there are the minority who really works selflessly for the community but those are few
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I ask those I know why join the RC...except for the flirt around part, the reasons the same. Nobody work selflessly for something, there must a motive..
These parents are extremely selfish in their decisions. They seem to forget that they'll kick the bucket before their retarded child does and their offspring will then become a burden for the rest of us.
Well said....I know of many of such selfish assholes...and it's getting more common..keeps coming out in the news
Ccb Malaysians like you have been smearing me non stop. A gaslighting technique to destroy my reputation. Why are ccb Malaysians so evil? What bad things did I do to Malaysians? Absolutely nothing. You ccb Malaysians are sons of whores that bully people.
And as usual Valium ccb post is Liked by his fellow ccb Malaysian son of whore @musashi.
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