Alpha male or Alpha female is just an concept. There is no such things out there. If you have a wife.
Differences is that you have enough resources to"tame" your women as well as your mother and father in law.
If it just for Physical Gratification, why not get yourself an "Expert" to do it for you every night @ your whims and fancy.
For Gal friend, she must not only be good but she must be willing too. Then we can talk.