Someone gave me advice not to take things to heart at all. Advice that's pretty old and been around forever. After all the mouth belongs to them and well they'll say whatever the fuck they want to say. There's a problem though. It's easier said than done. Some ppl can do it others simply can't. That's why ppl still fight over name calling.
There's tons of good advice around but following them that's tough.
I'm not sure if what I'm about to say would turn out useful, but I'm going to give it a try nevertheless.
Someone in the past said:
"If you know the truth, the truth will set you free."
There are two sets of truth involved in this equation - the truth of knowing oneself, and the truth of knowing your opponent's motive.
First of all, you've to know the truth about yourself. Are you plump ? You're either plump or you're not. If you're plump, are you able to live with that truth ? If you're plump and you're unable to live with that truth, you're going to get very bruised even without any insinuation from a third party. In that case, the problem lies with you, and not the third party.
Then comes the motive of the person who passes that hurtful remark. The insinuation may be that you're plump or you're stupid etc. Before you get agitated, assess the motive of the person who passes that remark.
Even if the truth is you're plump, why should it concern a third party ? If I'm not your g/f to be, the fact that you're ugly or plump does not concern me. If I'm not your parent or teacher, the fact that you're stupid does not concern me. If I'm not related to you in that sense, why would I pass such a remark ? Why would I speak the obvious and choose to hurt you instead of being sensitive ?
I've come across many people who are not good looking or less intelligent, but I have not found the need to say it out loud to them. But there was one occasion when I met a very handsome medical doctor, and for some reason I felt threatened. Why ? I felt he was going to steal the limelight from me if we were to appear together in the same place. I'm not a doctor. I was feeling insecure myself, and I started looking for 'weak spots' in this CV. I found one - he was older than I was. In actual fact it didn't matter, but I made it matter. Whenever the subject was about this handsome doctor, I would not forget to mention the fact that he was older.
So the next time when someone passes a hurtful remark, think about his motive. In all likelihood you might have something so good about yourself that he felt so threatened.
A person who criticizes another person, more often than not, is out to promote himself.