close best friend did not turn up for brother's wake.

The only expectation I have of my friends is that they are not cowards.

laksaboy said:

Wakes are overrated. It's another stupid Chinese way to flaunt wealth: material wealth and social wealth.

I would very much prefer the Muslim way: no fuss, no muss, no wakes, no bands, dead and buried on the same day.

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agreed. don't understand why die also need to celebrate. i would rather go straight from mortuary to the graveyard. Best for everyone, the dead, the family and others.

skyfall said:

Just seeking opinions.
my brother passed away.
however, my closest best friend did not turn up for the wake.
he was free.
not even a text message to send his condolence.
i was very surprised and shocked.
should i ask him or just let things be the way it is?
frankly, this has affected my level of faith and trust and friendship with him.
please speak frankly.

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I was not allowed to attend the wake of my uncle when he passed away. Reason being my mum ask me to stay away from the wake as my wife is going to give birth soon the next day .

congo9 said:

I was not allowed to attend the wake of my uncle when he passed away. Reason being my mum ask me to stay away from the wake as my wife is going to give birth soon the next day .

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So what will happen if you had attended the wake? Your deceased uncle's spirit will follow you home then attach himself to your wife's tummy and be reincarnated as your newborn child?

You mean you expect them to make donations in their own name and not via third parties?

Spock said:

The only expectation I have of my friends is that they are not cowards.

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At least, he, his mum and his wife won't think so. :p

laksaboy said:

So what will happen if you had attended the wake? Your deceased uncle's spirit will follow you home then attach himself to your wife's tummy and be reincarnated as your newborn child?

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laksaboy said:

So what will happen if you had attended the wake? Your deceased uncle's spirit will follow you home then attach himself to your wife's tummy and be reincarnated as your newborn child?

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Of course not. They are just being superstitious.

Happy things like giving birth to a healthy baby is much joyful occasion to a person who is dead. I feel rather sad as i couldn't be there to help out. BTW, i grew up with them. It a kin ship things.

They believe that death is no good. It might bring harm to my new born. It is according to their belief.

To me, i believe that giving birth to a life represent a new dawn for people around them. It conquer death and sorrowful matters. I told my mum that though it is sorrowful, but she must remain optimistic as we celebrate the coming of young life, which is her grand child.

As they believe that it might bring bad luck to me if i visit them, so i do respect their decision not to go. It might affect them.

Pray for your best friend to die soon, preferably violently (like ken langga lorry driven by reckless FT driver)
then purposely dont attend his funeral. Problem solved

lky si wa a ho peng you. Ka kin si

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Thank you very much for replying.