If you're able to say, wholeheartedly, that you wouldn't be jealous if your partner shagged another person, does that mean you're more emotionally mature than the average? What about if you could say that you were not jealous, but in fact happy they had found pleasure in the arms of another, while still considering yours 'home'? Is that the sign of a well-developed, self-possessed individual?
I ask, because I have been reading a lot lately about non-monogamous relationships. The idea is cropping up in the bountiful plains of media fodder with curious regularity. We've been looking at the notion on this blog for years, but now it seems it's really slipped into the vernacular. Does that mean the mainstream status enjoyed by monogamy might finally be at an end?
"Are new dating apps killing monogamy?" One headline asks. "4 reasons humans are so bad at sexual monogamy," another reads. In such pieces, the merits of non-monogamy are contrasted with the limitations of traditional you-and-me-foreverness and a common conclusion is reached; we love the idea of lifelong monogamy, we're just not very good at making the dream reality. Especially now that we're living longer, meeting more people, compartmentalising our lives, yada-yada-yada. And then there's science: "Infidelity lurks in your genes" bugles a recent opinion pieces in The New York Times.
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/cit...owers-with-a-better-life-20150611-ghlgmj.html
http://www.polyamorousdating.com/?s....au&aff_tgt=&gclid=CLWE_bvci8YCFVgSvQodmZgA3g
I ask, because I have been reading a lot lately about non-monogamous relationships. The idea is cropping up in the bountiful plains of media fodder with curious regularity. We've been looking at the notion on this blog for years, but now it seems it's really slipped into the vernacular. Does that mean the mainstream status enjoyed by monogamy might finally be at an end?
"Are new dating apps killing monogamy?" One headline asks. "4 reasons humans are so bad at sexual monogamy," another reads. In such pieces, the merits of non-monogamy are contrasted with the limitations of traditional you-and-me-foreverness and a common conclusion is reached; we love the idea of lifelong monogamy, we're just not very good at making the dream reality. Especially now that we're living longer, meeting more people, compartmentalising our lives, yada-yada-yada. And then there's science: "Infidelity lurks in your genes" bugles a recent opinion pieces in The New York Times.
http://www.smh.com.au/lifestyle/cit...owers-with-a-better-life-20150611-ghlgmj.html
http://www.polyamorousdating.com/?s....au&aff_tgt=&gclid=CLWE_bvci8YCFVgSvQodmZgA3g
