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Her husband had substantial credit card debts, was non-committal to their relationship and in the end, even had an extramarital affair. Yet, a 38-year-old woman was so infatuated with him, she patiently waited 10 years to marry him.
A report in Shin Min Daily news described the woman as a well-paid 38-year-old white-collar worker, known as Madam Soo. But when it came to matters of the heart, Madam Soo was willing to settle for a man who owed credit card companies at least $100,000 and made her wait 10 long years before deciding to marry her. The couple had met when they were both students in university.
She told the Chinese daily: "He had a habit of using his credit cards, and chalked up debts totalling $100,000. Although he never explained how those debts came about, I chose to
accept him, and decided to marry him. After going through ROM, we never held a customary wedding, nor had a honeymoon. But I accepted it."
Her 40-year-old husband was often away from Singapore for work, and would leave her alone for long periods of time in Singapore. Even then, she quietly soldiered on, taking on the
bulk of their household expenses, including utilities and maintenance of their 5-room flat. She even took on the responsiblity of paying off their home loan after he stopped chipping in
after a year.
She explained: "He promised he would work very hard until he was 50, after which, he would settle down and stay by my side. So, even when he was only with me for three months in
a year, I kept believing in his promise. We stayed in touch mainly through phone calls and emails."
Her love for him ran so deep that she also willingly gave his parents' an allowance when he used up a sum of money that was left to him and his mother from a deceased elder sister.
She said that her husband had used the money to repay his credit card debts, leaving nothing for his mother.
Despite having given so much, her husband told her one day about his extramarital affair. Madam Soo immediately flew to Guangzhou, China, where her husband was then based, to try and save their marriage.
While there, she discovered that his mistress was already seven months pregnant. But Madam Soo wanted so much to save her marriage that she even agreed to let him continue his affair with his mistress.
Husband wants divorce on Valentine's Day
Madam Soo told Shin Min that her husband had thought she was having an affair with another man, but later on, came clean and told her that he had a mistress.
She said: "He was a sweet-talker and would always send me flowers on important occasions such as my birthday and our wedding anniversary when he was overseas. But during Valentine's Day last year, he told me he wanted a divorce because his mistress was pregnant."
It was only when Madam Soo then threatened to kill herself that her husband acceded to her requests to leave his mistress and return to her side.
However, her husband did not go through with his promise and even told her that he would provide her with $2,000 in monthly maintenance when she went to Guangzhou to look for him. She added: "That was how he got me to agree to let him keep his mistress."
When he lost his job later, he reneged on his promise to provide for her. By then, Madam Soo decided to give up her marriage.
