The one and only time LKY felt shame and dare not turn up!

[Debonerman]

All the Who's who in Singapore were there except Lau Cheebye. I remember the reports on TV and in the papers. Yes Lau Cheebye was in Singapore at the time yet even he was not that thick skinned enough to show up. Should give the Old Fart some credit...he does understand shame!

http://www.mukto-mona.com/Articles/habibul_haque/past_eye.htm


I remember one moment of history vividly. President Nelson Mandela came to Singapore to deliver Singapore Lecture on March 6, 1997. We were waiting with batted expectation at the Ball Room of Hotel Shangri-La. Mandela walked in escorted by a single bodyguard. A tall, handsome, crew cut, smart, young white man followed Mandela closely.

Here was a man who spent nearly three decades of his life in jail imprisoned by the white ruling class in one of history's cruelest episodes. Now he was free man who forgave his oppressors. He stood taller.

 

[Debonerman]

CBK Bossming my two hairy ones, compare Lau Cheebye with Mandela lah!:oIo:


http://www.theglobeandmail.com/news...guards-view-of-nelson-mandela/article1400710/


JOHANNESBURG – Everyone knows the legend of Nelson Mandela: the man who saved South Africa from civil war, the man who is regarded today as a living saint, who endured 27 years in prison and emerged with forgiveness in his heart.

But what kind of man was this living saint for those who worked nearest to him – the humble bodyguards who spent countless hours at his side?

I got a glimpse into the human side of this legend from someone I met while I was researching a story on Invictus, the new Clint Eastwood movie about Mr. Mandela’s strategy of reconciliation during the Rugby World Cup in 1995.

The glimpse came from a man named Etienne van Eck, a former policeman who had served as a bodyguard to Mr. Mandela from 1994 to 1999.

Globe reporter Ian Bailey had spotted him at an Invictus screening in Vancouver last week, and put me in contact with him. The former bodyguard, now living in Canada, sent me a long and eloquent e-mail, and we later talked by telephone. He convinced me that the Mandela legend was equally authentic among those who saw him at close quarters every day.

Mr. van Eck remembers the fears of his own people – the Afrikaners – when apartheid ended and the black majority won power. Many were ready to flee. He remembers how Mr. Mandela calmed those fears and convinced the Afrikaners that they had an important role in the post-apartheid nation. He was “the most remarkable leader of our time,” Mr. van Eck says. “To say that I treasure my time with President Mandela as a profound privilege would be to understate how I cherish that experience and the memories of my time with him. He changed me.”

He told me the story of how Mr. Mandela had amalgamated two mutually suspicious groups of bodyguards – blacks from the African National Congress and whites from the former apartheid police force – into an effective unit that learned to overcome their mistrust and work closely together. “We grew to be friends, teaching one another important lessons,” he said.

He told me how Mr. Mandela had toiled to learn every nuance of Afrikaans, a language he had studied from the warders at Robben Island prison, even though it was the language of his oppressors. Once he was planning to address a group of farmers in South Africa and wanted to speak to them in Afrikaans, their language. He asked Mr. van Eck for help in translating his speech into Afrikaans. But when speaking to the farmers, he chose to address them with the most respectful and formal Afrikaans term for “you” – even though his bodyguard had suggested that a less formal word would have been acceptable.

On another day, Mr. Mandela was attending the wedding of Francois Pienaar, captain of the Springboks rugby team. He left his home too early, so Mr. van Eck quietly detoured and took a longer route to the wedding to ensure that they would arrive on time. “The president always stressed punctuality,” the bodyguard said. “It was all about respect for one’s host.”

Nine years ago, shortly after they arrived in Vancouver, Mr. van Eck suffered the death of his wife. He received a phone call of sympathy and condolences from Mr. Mandela. “I know you have the courage to turn tragedy into triumph,” he told his former bodyguard.

Reflecting on those words today, Mr. van Eck mused: “The world knows he has done exactly that.”

 

[Debonerman]

http://www.biztimes.com/news/2010/3/5/leadership-inspiration-from-mandela

Leadership: Inspiration from Mandela
By Karen Vernal , for BizTimes

Published March 5, 2010



“It matters not how strait the gate,

How charged with punishments the scroll, I am the master of my fate:

I am the captain of my soul.” — William Ernst Henley



These words are the last stanza from the poem “Invictus” written by William Ernst Henley in the 1800s. It was this poem that inspired and sustained Nelson Mandela through 27 years of imprisonment.

This year, the film industry offered a stunning contribution depicting the life of Nelson Mandela in the early days of his presidency in South Africa. While the writers of the screenplay may have taken liberty with the exact words of the messages Mandela offered, the film nevertheless captures the essence of his spirit and provides profound lessons in leadership.



Clarity
The first day as president, Mandela noticed the number of staff (all white) from the previous administration packing their belongings. He asked that they gather together.

They believed that Mandela was enjoying the notion of firing them collectively. Instead, this was his message: “I couldn’t help noticing the empty offices as I came to work today … and all the packing boxes. Now, of course, if you want to leave, that is your right. And if you feel in your heart that you cannot work with your new government, then it is better that you do leave right away. But if you are packing up because you fear that your language, or the color of your skin, or who you served previously, disqualifies you from working here now, I am here to tell you, have no such fear. What’s past is past. We look to the future now … We need your help. If you would like to stay, you will be doing your country a great service. I ask only that you do your jobs to the best of your abilities and with good hearts. I promise to do the same. If we can manage that, our country will be a shining light in the world …”

Like Nelson Mandela, we have witnessed great clarity on the part of many executives that we support. Their clarity results in increased confidence from the people within their organizations. These leaders provide direction. They communicate the mission and vision of the organization as guiding lights. They do not waver.


Forgiveness
When the lead for President Mandela’s bodyguards learned that the president had appointed white bodyguards from the previous administration, he was furious. He demanded to know why these men from the previous regime, the same regime that had tortured, imprisoned, raped and murdered so many of the African black people would have the privilege of serving as bodyguards for this president. Mandela’s response:

“When people see me, they see my bodyguards too. You represent me, directly. The rainbow nation starts here. Reconciliation starts here … Forgiveness starts here. Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is a powerful weapon.”

In a recent client off-site retreat, we witnessed leaders giving voice to forgiving one another. We experienced the CEO who lost his temper, stand in front of his leadership team and say, “I am sorry.” We witnessed the words of Mandela in those moments. “Forgiveness liberates the soul.” We witnessed each leader in the room experience a feeling of liberation, visible in their faces and in their non-verbal body language.



Courage and compassion
Mandela knew that the South African Springboks Rugby Team was as hated by the black population as they were beloved by the Afrikaaner whites. When the National Sports Council (all black) voted to change the name, the uniform and the emblem of the team, Mandela intervened at great risk to his popularity with the black community. In the film, Morgan Freeman as Mandela says to the Sports Council: “I am aware of your earlier vote. I am aware that it was unanimous. Nonetheless, I propose that we restore the Springboks. Restore their name, their emblem and their colors immediately ... We have to surprise them with compassion, with restraint and generosity.”

For all leaders, it is much easier to succumb to popular opinion … so much harder to stand in your own truth with courage and conviction. Nelson Mandela demonstrated that courage and compassion can make a difference. His insight was to see the possibility of the power of reconciliation that could be achieved if the rugby team were to pull off the equivalent of the 1980 US Olympic hockey team’s victory. He demonstrated unimaginable courage when he took the risk to challenge a decision that had already been made by the National Sports Council.



Relationship: I see you
For me, one of the more endearing messages in the film came when Francois Pienaar, captain of the Springboks, accepted an invitation to have tea with the president.

“What’s he like?” he asked one of the white bodyguards who was taking him to the president’s office.

Henrick, the white bodyguard, responded, “When I worked for the previous president, it was my job to be invisible. This president (Mandela) found out I like English toffee and brought me some back from his visit to the queen.”



“To him, nobody is invisible.”
If there is no other message that leaders take from this article, it is my hope that you appreciate and recognize in new ways how much your employees long to be “seen” by you. This is a universal human desire: to be seen … to be noticed … to be appreciated.

Nelson Mandela had the personal capacity to see you. He demonstrated the compassion to understand; the courage to take bold steps; and the ability to forgive even the unforgiveable. He has taught us significant lessons in leadership by the way he chose to live his life.