St. Paul had already discerned this reality, which underlies his counsel to Christians of his time to remain unmarried. Within his theological framework, singlehood was implicitly understood as celibacy, as reflected in his assertion that it is better to marry than to be consumed by passion. Accordingly, for St. Paul, a life without marriage—and thus without women—was inseparable from a life ordered toward sexual continence.
In other words, all pastors who marry do so not out of love, but because they cannot restrain their lust for women. Their decision to marry has nothing to do with the theological or biblical concept of love, but is rather driven by an inability to govern their passions.