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Realising that even when you migrate overseas, sometimes your prejudices within you doesn't leave you - it is amplified.
DiscussionI migrated to San Fran, US over 2 years ago and met a fellow Sporean here. As we got to know each other, they actually said that they hv no minority friends in Singapore. Like throughout their whole adult life, they hv had no friends outside her socio-demo group and race. This disappointed and shocked me because we are from a multi racial and religious society. As someone from a minority racial group i have met people with such a mindset and preferences when I was in spore but they r very closed minded, hv a lot of group think and r ignorntt so I can't click with them very well. It's disappointing that to a certain degree that I'm starting to feel the same way towards them.
I thought that is fine but I realised after talking to them that they prefer to mix arnd with ang moh ppl. Like white locals when there r so many diverse races in San Fran. They would actually put it on insta to show that these ppl r their friends. It's absolutely SO cringe. In convos, they wld make passing remarks that makes me feel that they prioritise befriending ang moh white ppl. Like they would ask oh is your friend white? N that is quite disappointing because my friend is a human. So I know what they r trying to do by displaying those pics on insta story.
We are all racist to a certain degree. I know I am and try to be mindful and not generalise but damn I won't wanna display it for the whole world to see. I just came to a realisation that it doesn't matter if we come from a multi racial and multi religious society and this whole facade of displaying diversity, even if we have that environment back home, we cannot force people to integrate and befriend other races even if we are conditioned to appreciate it through education. If they wanna shun or idolise a specific race, it is actually on them.
I'm not looking for any advice because it is what it is but fellow sporeans overseas, have you met other sporeans like this? Is it a thing?. I just wanted to express my disappointment that I thought by living overseas, we should open our minds and not 110% act on our prejudices overseas like how we did back home (for those who do). I know for sure though, if we had met in Spore, we wldnt ever be friends because I don't fit into that specific socio demo grp. Oh and I am someone this person defo cannot benefit from even though they have denied that they make friends just to benefit themselves.
