Holding the door open for the person behind often goes unappreciated

[True Believer]

Holding the door open for the person walking behind me is a gesture of kindness, and a simple "Thank you" or even a nod or smile is a basic sign of appreciation for that courtesy. However, in S'pore, such kind gestures are usually taken for granted. To the person who held the door, a absence of thanks can feel rude or unappreciative; especially if he makes a point of being kind to others. Based on my experience, only 50% of people would actually show appreciation for such a courteous act.

 

[Vlad Tepes]

You should know that Singaporeans have an uncaring / unappreciative nature that is permeated by Chinese culture. I ever saved a PRC's throat from being crushed by a barbell in AU. End up down the road he gave me a dirty look for no reason.

In SG, if you sit in a relatively empty bus (like 80% empty) and put yr hand on the handle of an empty seat in front of you. Almost 99% of the time, someone will purposely sit on that seat . Queue cutting. For me, 99% of the time, a post menopausal woman will purposely cut in front of me. In fact, a few years back. A NUN did that!

Another incident, I was waiting for my tabao @ BK leaning against those high table n stools as they're near the counter. The WHOLE row is totally EMPTY. This CB overgrown kid just came over and die die wanna seat at my position. I told him to buzz off, which obediently did. Don't confuse us with the Japanese. They're much better than Singaporeans as a whole. And don't expect much from landless and classless coolie descendants.

 

[Baimi]

One time as I was opening the door to staircase to retrieve my car, walked halfway saw a young lady coming up from staircase, one hand holding some documents, the other her hand bag. So I took few steps back to hold the door for her then she pointed to me she that she was going up one more stair. At that moment I looked stupid, but then again I got the chance to see her tight skirt going up the stairs. Disappointed that she never said thank you to me.

 

[syed putra]

Holding the door open for the person walking behind me is a gesture of kindness, and a simple "Thank you" or even a nod or smile is a basic sign of appreciation for that courtesy. However, in S'pore, such kind gestures are usually taken for granted. To the person who held the door, a absence of thanks can feel rude or unappreciative; especially if he makes a point of being kind to others. Based on my experience, only 50% of people would actually show appreciation for such a courteous act.

Not me mate! They always appreciate the gesture. Maybe its the way you look.

 

[uniboi]

Holding the door open for the person walking behind me is a gesture of kindness, and a simple "Thank you" or even a nod or smile is a basic sign of appreciation for that courtesy. However, in S'pore, such kind gestures are usually taken for granted. To the person who held the door, a absence of thanks can feel rude or unappreciative; especially if he makes a point of being kind to others. Based on my experience, only 50% of people would actually show appreciation for such a courteous act.

Courtesy lion and campaign are just for show

I once had a fractured foot in cast and was in a hospital alone, limping on crutches. The counter staff were all looking at me and busy gossiping amongst themselves. Well done. Breeding lazy buggers like mosquitoes in stagnant water on public purse strings

 

[uniboi]

Not me mate! They always appreciate the gesture. Maybe its the way you look.

Me too. A simple kind gesture can go a long way

 

[True Believer]

One time as I was opening the door to staircase to retrieve my car, walked halfway saw a young lady coming up from staircase, one hand holding some documents, the other her hand bag. So I took few steps back to hold the door for her then she pointed to me she that she was going up one more stair. At that moment I looked stupid, but then again I got the chance to see her tight skirt going up the stairs. Disappointed that she never said thank you to me.

Seeing that woman go up the stairs in a tight skirt was your reward. Maybe she didn't thank you because you didn't help her by opening the wrong door. A woman at my condo held the door open as I was a few steps behind at the basement carpark clutching onto a bag of empty plastic bottles. I thanked her for the kind gesture, but informed her that I wasn't going up the lift just yet as I had recyclables I was going to place into the bin at the basement; she smiled after I thanked her.

 

[True Believer]

Not me mate! They always appreciate the gesture. Maybe its the way you look.

It has absolutely nothing to do with the way I look. Whenever I hold the door open for the person behind me, I always do it with a smile, regardless of whether I know the person or not. It has to do with the beneficiary of my courteous act; when a person takes it for granted, he will think it doesn't deserve a word of thanks.

 

[True Believer]

Me too. A simple kind gesture can go a long way

A smile, nod of the head or word of thanks cost nothing, but means a lot to the person holding the door.

 

[True Believer]

Courtesy lion and campaign are just for show I once had a fractured foot in cast and was in a hospital alone, limping on crutches. The counter staff were all looking at me and busy gossiping amongst themselves. Well done. Breeding lazy buggers like mosquitoes in stagnant water on public purse strings

It is second nature to me and most of my colleagues to hold the lift or office door open for the person(s) behind us. Most will thank us except for a particular young executive who never says a word. One day, a middle-aged staff told him: "You are welcome" in a slightly louder voice. He not only didn't say anything but asked us later: "What is her problem?" I said it is courteous to thank someone for a kind act - especially a co-worker. That young upstart replied: "No big deal holding a lift or office door open. Why did she make such a fuss about it?" You see? To some people, they don't even see that as a kind, courteous or helpful action.