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Foreign woman torn about continuing relationship with Malay-Singaporean man working as food delivery rider
ByYoko Nicole
November 19, 2025
A foreign woman has candidly shared online that she is starting to have doubts about continuing to date a Malay-Singaporean man because he does not have what she considers a “stable job”.
Posting on the r/sgdatingscene subreddit on Tuesday (Nov 18), she explained that the man is currently working as a food delivery rider and barely talks about any long-term goals or plans for his future. She added that whenever they meet, their conversations almost always end up revolving around how tough life in Singapore is.
Feeling conflicted and increasingly unsure, she asked the community, “Is being a food delivery rider considered a stable job here? And is it normal for young adults in Singapore to not have a stable job or long-term plan?”
She also mentioned that he doesn’t seem financially prepared to get his own place, and, based on everything she has observed, there is no concrete plan for that happening any time soon.
“….There’s no real plan. And honestly… I kind of want to stop seeing him, but he is a good guy, so I’m torn. Would love insights from locals or anyone who’s been in a similar situation.”
In the comments, many criticised the woman for looking down on the man’s job.
One person pointed out that, contrary to her assumption, food delivery riders in Singapore can actually earn quite a lot in a month.
“I know people who earn 4-5k being food delivery rider. No education,” they said. I mean, the Malay guy that I know has no education but works hard like 10am to 8pm S$4-5k a month but informed me that if he had a bike he can get more money.”
“While the Chinese guy doing grab works from 10pm-5pm and earns maybe S$3K a month, a lot lesser. Depends on how determined they are, some people just have different life goals. And I think Malay guy has no time to date.”
Another commented, “I mean delivery riders in SG make quite abit of money. If you think he is a good guy maybe can try speak to him about getting a full-time job so he got CPF to buy house next time.”
Meanwhile, others reminded her that, in the end, only she could truly answer her own question. One commenter suggested she take a step back and really think about what matters most to her in a partner.
“Ask yourself this. Him being a good guy vs no prospect in life, which weighs more?” they wrote.
“You need to talk to him and ask him what’s up with his life and what is he planning to do in the future. And you, even though you’re earning more, do you expect him to provide everything or will you be splitting? If you’re expecting him to provide more than you, then it’s probably best to break up if he has no plans for the future.”
