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5 Ways to Restore Trust After an Emotional Affair Recently, many experts have written about the hazards of an emotional affair and how it can erode trust in a marriage. It is a form of betrayal that can capsize a couple’s sense of safety and security in no time. The media tends to portray...

Your 7 most important relationships. Your life will ultimately be defined by your relationships. I learned this life-defining principle when I was a kid. My mom was a hospice nurse and I would occasionally tag along on her house calls as she compassionately cared for her dying patients. As...

What Truly Motivates You? In this season of new beginnings, all of us are contemplating change to one degree or another. We all want to change. We want to feel better or be better or look better. We want more money, more friends, more free time. And all of these things are possible. They...

The Eucharistic Vision of Psalm 96 Pexels.com By Matthew Allen Joy and judgement, two themes tied up closely together in Psalm 96. But how can judgement, hardly an idea that instils positive emotions of any sort, let alone joy, be so fundamental to the redemptive message of the text? If...

Too Busy? Hmmm . . . [ 1 min read ★ ] Look carefully then how you walk . . . making the best use of the time, because the days are evil—Ephesians 5:15-16 When sacred opportunities come—opportunities to listen, to care, to...

How Vision Affects Movement There is an intimate and often overlooked relationship between our eyes and our feet. We go where we are looking. The connection is so second-nature, we don’t even realize it. The connection so aligned that our perspective tells us “straight” is not so much about...

3 things to do when you’re mad at your spouse. If you’ve been married longer than one day, chances are you’ve been mad at your spouse at least once and they’ve been mad at you too. When two imperfect people are put in close quarters and regular contact with each other (which should be...

6 Smart Ways To Deal With Jealous Feelings One of my clients, Carolyn, a 35 year old accountant, has difficulty trusting Bob, 38, because her parents’ marriage ended due to infidelity and broken promises. She started dating Bob after a brief courtship and often reacts with fear and...

We will dance again: This viral video shows why we don’t believe death is the end This week my social media was saturated with a beautiful video featuring a former prima ballerina in a wheelchair. In this viral clip Marta C. González Saldaña, who has Alzheimer’s, was filmed listening to...

Who Are Your Heroes? [ 1 min read ★ ] Worship the Lord your God, and only him. Serve him with absolute single-heartedness—Matthew 4:10 We men like heroes. We like to look upward. We start early, as boys, looking up to men...

How Do We Best Help the Poor and Needy in Our Communities? 30 I think the most important principle is you can’t effectively help needy people you don’t know. Now, there are exceptions. You might say, “I know the people who work with them, and I financially support their ministry.” But the...

How to Avoid Being Defensive with Your Partner During my first interview with Helena and Dan, an attractive couple in their late-thirties, I was impressed with their enthusiasm and commitment to each other. Married less than ten years, they were referred to me for marriage counseling. They...

How to Win Marital Arguments It happens in every marriage. Two people who live together can’t help but grate on each other at some point. Two different backgrounds. Two different priorities and sets of values. Two entirely different people trying to live as one. Marital arguments are an...

7 Things You Need to Quit For a Happier Marriage Everyone says they want a happier, healthier, more loving relationship with their spouse, and who could blame them? That idea of happily ever after sounds pretty good, right? Here’s the thing however – too often it’s not always our partner...

Restoring Connections [ 1 min read ★ ] . . . build up the ancient ruins . . . repair the ruined cities—Isaiah 61:4 Three relationships broke when man fell, so long ago: the relationship between man and God, the...

Building New Gauges [ 1 min read ★ ] Do not be conformed to this world—Romans 12:2 We men love to measure things. And we have, at our disposal, highly accurate gauges for measuring just about anything, including the...

The Bible Begins and Ends with a Marriage! Here’s another excerpt of my book: Love Me, Love My Wife: 10 Reasons Every Christian Should Join a Local Church (available on Amazon) The Bible begins and ends with a wedding! In the beginning (Genesis 1), the first wedding is that of God and man...

How Not To Be A Discouragement To Others How Not To Be A Discouragement To Others ADVERTISING Sometimes I get discouraged. How about you? When I get discouraged, sometimes, I become a discouragement to others around me. It is one thing to be discouraged. It is an entirely...

The Effects Of Unconfessed Sin On A Heart For God THE EFFECTS OF UNCONFESSED SIN ON A HEART FOR GOD Do you remember the first time you lied and got away with it? I do. I was in first grade. And thus began my life of crime, lying when it benefited me! All of us are tempted to lie...

With Friends Like These . . . [ 1 min read ★ ] My brothers, show no partiality as you hold the faith in our Lord Jesus Christ—James 2:1 We men tend toward partiality. Sometimes with forethought, many times with no...