If you are in your 40s - 60s, it's no longer about "the charbor side of view". Charbors have different age groups and social classes, and you must know where your market segment is. There is no one-size-fits-all solution.
The rich who exudes an aura self-confidence will attract a different species of women, and definitely not your poly Ah Lians.
If uncles of your similar age groups, especially those who are older than you, are curious about your age, it means they view you as a competitor and it means you are attractive to women. This is a much clearer indicator than soliciting the views of women. Women always lie about what they want.