Studies have shown that people who marry early have better marriages. Here's taking a look at the benefits of an early marriage
Divya (45) and Ramnaryan (46) have been married for 25 years. They're happy and then have children in college.
Rashmi (44) and Mohan (48) have been married for 26 years. They have had some problems midway but were able to overcome them and are now happy with each other. They have a son in college
Diane (50) and Manu (50) have been married for 27 years. They're happily married and have 3 children who are working.
The list goes on, but young people today are in no hurry to get married. Career comes first to most young people today and since live-in relationships are no longer taboo in several societies, marriage takes a back seat. Youngsters instead dedicate all their energy to build a career for themselves and the thought of raising a family is last on their mind. In an unofficial release, corroborated by legal experts handling divorce cases the percentages of divorces for those who marry young are 3 to 4 percent as opposed to 20 to 25 percent of those fighting divorces after late marriages.
Most people in urban set-ups today find their life partners only once they are in their 30s, or even later. By this time many are set in their ways and if the whole deal of a successful marriage is compromise, they are not willing to make it. Specialists are convinced, that when a family is started early (age 18 to 25), it has much better influence on the psychological health of the married couple much more than a late marriage does. According to an online respondent to the debate over early marriages, "Marriage is like building a house. You start from the foundation and work your way up. If you are young, you get to grow together. Together, in the same direction as opposed to already having a 'direction' and having to get lucky to find someone that going the same way you are."
According to marriage counselor Sheila P, "People get set in their ways as they grow older. Unpleasant relationships that may have eroded trust and respect, which is very important for a successful marriage, also contribute to marital problems. The later the marriage, the more baggage one brings into it."
On the other hand, when a couple marry young, they seem to benefit a great deal. Experts feel that living together helps them become more independent and get better sense of responsibility. Work and studies, surely, help as well. Newlyweds, in contrast to their peers, seem to be in better shape and withstand emotional stress better. Psychologists also feel that live-in relationships may not offer the same solidity to the relationship 'since one window is always kept open and commitment is not 100 percent'.
Counsellor Prem M, says, "The right age for a man or woman to marry in today's world of 'opportunity' is 21 or 22. This is the age when there's still some magic about being in a committed relationship. It's an age where young people still believe in promises and if an environment of trust and mutual respect is a given, the marriage is bound to last. At a time when society is in the process of breaking down institutions, children brought up on the insecurites of a single parent cry out for restoration of the institution called marriage.
Children who grow up with both parents are more secure and can handle stress better.
In a US-based study where scientists studied over 8,000 young families over a period of time it was concluded that early marriages also help improve parent-child relationships, children in such families develop earlier and have higher intellect. In addition, medics also believe, that children born in such families have correctly formed norms of behaviour, and that they are also more protected from depression. "The case is not very different in urban Indian cities too," says counselor Jason S. "It is a also proven medical fact that the best years for a woman to bear children is between 18 and 25. It is but obvious that children frome younger parents will have better physical well being resulting in better emotional health; this in turn ensures proper socialization and could also contribute to a better schooling experience," he says. Conversely, psychologists believe, that late marriages have a bad influence on the health of the partners and their future children as well.
Divya (45) and Ramnaryan (46) have been married for 25 years. They're happy and then have children in college.
Rashmi (44) and Mohan (48) have been married for 26 years. They have had some problems midway but were able to overcome them and are now happy with each other. They have a son in college
Diane (50) and Manu (50) have been married for 27 years. They're happily married and have 3 children who are working.
The list goes on, but young people today are in no hurry to get married. Career comes first to most young people today and since live-in relationships are no longer taboo in several societies, marriage takes a back seat. Youngsters instead dedicate all their energy to build a career for themselves and the thought of raising a family is last on their mind. In an unofficial release, corroborated by legal experts handling divorce cases the percentages of divorces for those who marry young are 3 to 4 percent as opposed to 20 to 25 percent of those fighting divorces after late marriages.
Most people in urban set-ups today find their life partners only once they are in their 30s, or even later. By this time many are set in their ways and if the whole deal of a successful marriage is compromise, they are not willing to make it. Specialists are convinced, that when a family is started early (age 18 to 25), it has much better influence on the psychological health of the married couple much more than a late marriage does. According to an online respondent to the debate over early marriages, "Marriage is like building a house. You start from the foundation and work your way up. If you are young, you get to grow together. Together, in the same direction as opposed to already having a 'direction' and having to get lucky to find someone that going the same way you are."
According to marriage counselor Sheila P, "People get set in their ways as they grow older. Unpleasant relationships that may have eroded trust and respect, which is very important for a successful marriage, also contribute to marital problems. The later the marriage, the more baggage one brings into it."
On the other hand, when a couple marry young, they seem to benefit a great deal. Experts feel that living together helps them become more independent and get better sense of responsibility. Work and studies, surely, help as well. Newlyweds, in contrast to their peers, seem to be in better shape and withstand emotional stress better. Psychologists also feel that live-in relationships may not offer the same solidity to the relationship 'since one window is always kept open and commitment is not 100 percent'.
Counsellor Prem M, says, "The right age for a man or woman to marry in today's world of 'opportunity' is 21 or 22. This is the age when there's still some magic about being in a committed relationship. It's an age where young people still believe in promises and if an environment of trust and mutual respect is a given, the marriage is bound to last. At a time when society is in the process of breaking down institutions, children brought up on the insecurites of a single parent cry out for restoration of the institution called marriage.
Children who grow up with both parents are more secure and can handle stress better.
In a US-based study where scientists studied over 8,000 young families over a period of time it was concluded that early marriages also help improve parent-child relationships, children in such families develop earlier and have higher intellect. In addition, medics also believe, that children born in such families have correctly formed norms of behaviour, and that they are also more protected from depression. "The case is not very different in urban Indian cities too," says counselor Jason S. "It is a also proven medical fact that the best years for a woman to bear children is between 18 and 25. It is but obvious that children frome younger parents will have better physical well being resulting in better emotional health; this in turn ensures proper socialization and could also contribute to a better schooling experience," he says. Conversely, psychologists believe, that late marriages have a bad influence on the health of the partners and their future children as well.
