'It's better than cheating on my wife': Sex dolls fulfil the needs of China's lonely men
Lifelike sex dolls fit the bill for Chinese men unwilling to cheat on their wives or see prostitutes, or who are simply looking for a temporary love
PUBLISHED : Tuesday, 14 April, 2015, 12:01pm
UPDATED : Tuesday, 14 April, 2015, 6:54pm
Agence France-Presse in Beijing
A high-end sex doll on display at the Micdolls store in Beijing. They are made of thermoplastic elastomer, a rubbery material softer than silicone, with adjustable parts. Photo: AFP
She lay quietly on a narrow bed, greeting potential customers with an impassive stare and a disproportionately buxom form: meet “156”, a stand-in companion for Chinese men with empty beds.
Named for her height, she is a high-quality sex doll made of thermoplastic elastomer, a rubbery material softer than silicone, with adjustable hands, a removable head and genitals, and available from specialist shops in Beijing for around US$2,500.
Liu, who did not want to give his full name, has one among the few possessions in his dimly lit studio apartment, deep in an industrial suburb of the capital.
Like millions in China who leave their hometowns to work in the cities, the 29-year-old car designer leads a bachelor’s life during the week, returning to his wife and toddler in neighbouring Hebei province every weekend.
Liu has been married for more than a decade, and does not want to be unfaithful, but still needs to satisfy his sexual appetites.
“Honestly, it is very easy to just pay a little money to find a woman in China, but I simply cannot bring myself to cheat on my wife, so I have never considered it,” he said with a nervous laugh.
But a blow-up alternative was not an option. “There was no way I would have sex with that kind of cheap inflatable plastic,” he explained.
Instead he forked out 15,800 yuan (HK$20,000), almost a month’s pay, for his more realistic Chinese-made “156”.
Married car designer Liu keeps his high-end sex doll in his apartment in Beijing. Then he goes home to his wife and child in neighbouring Hebei at weekends. Photo: AFP
Her removable parts make cleaning or replacement easier, but despite lengthy prior research – Liu can explain subtle differences between an exhaustive list of Chinese and foreign doll brands – he was disappointed.
“As an industrial designer I can’t neglect the lack of realistic details,” he lamented. “So I just used it a few times.”
“The only way a doll is better than a woman is that it won’t resist, so people can do whatever they want with it,” he added.
Liu bought his doll from Micdolls in Beijing, where salesman Yi Jiange said proudly: “Most people think the dolls are more attractive than real women.”
They come bald, with customers buying wigs for them according to their own preferences.
Some models are also significantly shorter, more akin to child-size, than “156”, for “convenience” according to Yi.
His clients, whose needs and preferences he discusses over a cup of tea, are usually professionals or business owners in their 30s and 40s, and he praises them as morally upright.
“If a married man refuses to see prostitutes and uses a doll instead, isn’t it admirable?”
A salesman positions the head of a Micdolls sex doll in Beijing. Economic reforms in China have brought the country more sexual freedom, and a plethora of sex shops. Photo: AFP
Buyers include user’s wives, claimed Yi, but he admitted that many clients’ partners “don’t quite accept” such dolls.
“My own girlfriend doesn’t agree with my work that much either,” he added.
China’s puritanical Communist Party decried decadence during its first decades in power, and while conservative attitudes are still widespread, economic reforms have brought the country more sexual freedom, and a plethora of sex shops.
The Chinese sex toy market is estimated at up to 100 billion yuan (HK$126 billion) per year by the business-to-business sex toy platform ChinaSexQ.com.
Currently the lifelike dolls – of which “156” is just one of many models available – represent only a fraction of that.
But Micdolls owner Zhang Han is going into production, expecting business to boom on the back of China’s severe gender imbalance.
In the face of a traditional preference for sons and the one-child policy in the world’s most populous country, sex-selective abortion is common – albeit illegal – and almost 116 boys are born for every 100 girls in China, far above the global average of 107.
As a result it has a growing shortage of women. “Many young men in China have difficulty finding girlfriends or socialising with women,” said Zhang. “That’s why they might use a doll as replacement.”
“Many previously reclusive young men have made friends through the online doll community,” he added. “Having any kind of hobby is better than having none, right?”
He also plans to experiment with a male doll for women.
For some buyers, dolls are not about sex, but love. Calling themselves “friends of dolls”, anonymous individuals gather on dedicated online forums, sharing user reviews and advice.
Their numbers have risen from a few hundred to more than 20,000 in recent years.
One forum user posted a lengthy article titled “My happy life after getting a sex doll”, and another shared pictures of a doll named “Lin Lin” – who has her own account on Chinese web message service QQ – in her new clothes.
Most people initially buy a doll for sex, explained salesman Yi. “Then they will start to dress them up in different costumes... and probably end up naming them like a human being. Eventually some kind of sentiment is involved.”
But for Liu, 156‘s soulless heart can do nothing to fill the emptiness of his bed.
“It doesn’t satisfy me at all, nor arouse any emotion in me,” he said.
“A doll’s perfection is derived from mathematical calculations, but it will never be more beautiful than a woman because she has a soul, expresses emotions and shows reaction.
“To me it has absolutely nothing that’s better than a real woman, but I can at least try to deceive myself with it,” he said.
